split with exP at Christmas, my decision. He was my first relationship since exh and I met him when separated for 2 years and he was there when I decided to divorce. He became controlling, would turn up at my house, wait for me (almost hiding, like stalking) he hit me once and generally made me anxious. However initially I did love him when things were good of course. I didn't think I'd get out of the relationship. Found it so so difficult. Yet I've been no contact since mid December. I know it was the right thing to do for both mine and ds sake, but I miss the nice him. Anyway, just wondering how others are getting on, what stage you're at? It was 4 year relationship. I've Made positive changes however there was no closure really, as no contact literally overnight.