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Struggling

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VioletRoses5 · 14/04/2015 20:27

I'm struggling to be positive. My DH has not had a job in nearly 2 years because he gave up his when he moved to another country (Scotland) to be with me. He can't find one and believe me he has tried. I have even applied for jobs for him. He started his own business. That's not going anywhere. It is affecting our present and our future. We can get by on my wage but I don't want to get by. I want to pay off my mortgage, go on a holiday, not worry about spending £40 at the supermarket. This may sound terribly pathetic but I feel like I cant keep my head above water. I want to cope.
I am trying to be emotionally supportive but I can't do it anymore, it's draining me. All of my friends have these great lifestyles and mine is crap.
2 years ago I thought the situation would improve but it's just gradually getting worse. I am actually glad I've got that off my chest.

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Quitelikely · 14/04/2015 20:41

Ok, has he tried pizza delivery jobs, takeaway driver that sort of thing. Bar work. Sales?

All the above areas usually give anyone a chance.

Does he have a particular trade?

feduptoww · 14/04/2015 20:44

OP, could you consider re-locating somewhere with more opportunities for work? Try and widen the job search and move if he gets offered a decent one? A fresh start might also be nice.

pocketsaviour · 14/04/2015 20:45

Do you live rurally or in a town/city? If there are call centres around, they're always looking for staff.

Would you consider moving areas if that would make it easier for him to find work?

VioletRoses5 · 14/04/2015 20:49

We live rural and we cannot move as I bought my house last year and couldn't not afford another move.
He applied for a job packing toiletries and was told he was not suitable. He was earning close to £35k when we met and he moved up so I could do my job (v specialised) but nothing has gone right for him.
I'm sorry I'm just venting I have no one irl who I can talk to. I just pretend everything is fine.

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VioletRoses5 · 14/04/2015 20:50

I suppose at least it's nice to maybe have a partner? I really feel like such a miserable cow but it is becoming increasingly hard to be positive. It's been 2 years and not even a glimmer of hope.

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