A friend of mine asked her husband of 24 years for a divorce. She wrote him a long email saying she wanted to find someone else whose conversation didn't bore her and with whom she could have satisfying sex. My friendship with her dwindled as I thought her ex was a pretty decent guy from what I could see, and she could only surround herself with friends who saw him as she did. Five years later, when ex husband and I were both single and divorced, we got together and found happiness. We have been dating 4 years and getting married in 2016, 10 years after she asked him for a divorce. Ex wife has made things incredibly hard, alienated the kids, throws tantrums, sends evil emails and time has changed nothing. Can it be right to harbour ill feeling for so long? I understand feeling upset and a bit rattled at the time but is it right to hold both of our families hostage to her emotional states? She has no feelings for her ex but she seems very jealous of our happiness.