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Please help me find friends

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Sharpasknives · 13/04/2015 21:09

Hi, I moved to a new area 2 years ago following a traumatic event , and divorce. I work full time in a job 35 miles away from home, about an hours commute . I have 2 children of secondary school age.
Now I'm really struggling to find friends. My neighbours are all elderly, I now longer do the school gate thing, my work colleagues are lovely but I can't stay for drinks after work as I have to get home to do tea/ footy training/ scouts run etc. I really can't face driving back another 35 miles if they are going out on at 7.30, plus that would mean a 140 mile round trip in a day.the kids do activities but as they are older, most parents drop and run.
Most evenings are spent as mums taxi, which rules out me joining a gym, or dance class etc .
I do get some time at weekends , but where can I meet other women? Im desperate for some girlfriends to pop round and drink wine ....

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Vivacia · 14/04/2015 08:29

MeetUp, ramblers or another walking group. Start a book club? Ours runs once a month at a restaurant on a quiet night, so everyone benefits.

matroyshka · 14/04/2015 11:04

Meetup is definitely a good idea. Vivacia's idea about starting a bookgroup sounds good, I read a comment by someone whose friend had started one by putting leaflets through neighbours' doors - maybe you could try something like that if bookgroups interest you? If you started it, you could hold it at times that are good for you.

Ouchbloodyouch · 14/04/2015 11:14

Hi I am on MN social. You are the wrong end of the country for me but there is a lot of northerners

Ouchbloodyouch · 14/04/2015 11:15

Are. Not is!

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Sharpasknives · 14/04/2015 17:57

Thanks I have registered with meet ups - I had totally forgotten about those !

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Sunflower6 · 14/04/2015 21:05

Have you thought about joining a local wi group, some of the newer groups have a mix of ages and have subgroups like book groups etc.

missroma · 25/04/2015 14:59

Hi, sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely with no friends. I am in a similar situation. Maybe it would help if we emailed each other. We could at least put the world to rights and maybe feel a little better x

ConnieMarble · 28/04/2015 23:37

Just wanted to post saying I feel your pain! As a bit of tomboy, the hobbies I do have put me into contact with plenty of male pals but no women. Work stuff is always organised spontaneously and I can rarely go - most of them don't have kids so don't understand! And my friends my age have no kids either, so I have to stay at home and see photos of them partying together. It's hard sometimes, I've been really struggling but I know it's important not to get isolated or paranoid. Hope you can find the time to get yourself out there! I'll let you know if I find a solution, heh.

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