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Using the ex's name during sex

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brunette123 · 13/04/2015 20:36

Let's call my DP's ex Susan. Whilst giving him oral sex earlier he said "such a pretty sight having my cock sucked by Susan". We have been together 4 years! He says it was a mistake. He said sorry. I am trying not to overreact but I think it has killed everything for me. Luckily we do not live together. Am I overreacting? I know he would never put up with the same from me. I am so upset. He must have been thinking about her at the time.

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glittertits · 13/04/2015 23:50

I once called DH my exes name during a blazing row - did not help things.

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt if this is a standalone problem. People have brain farts sometimes.

HormonalHeap · 13/04/2015 23:56

I was with my ex for 20yrs, grew up with him. Sometimes (usually when I'm angry) the first syllable of his name just spills out automatically. Nope want thinking of him.

wallypops · 14/04/2015 00:15

I called exh my DBs name once but not during sex! I've also called DP exh's name. Brain fart. I try and call everyone including the dogs darling to minimize this!!

FoolishFay · 14/04/2015 06:39

I've been with my DH ten years and occasionally call him by my ex-H name, even now! To be honest though, not in those circumstances!

WellThisIsAwkward123 · 14/04/2015 07:17

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dominogocatgo · 14/04/2015 07:54

You'll have to tell DH that Peter is William's middle name.

Lovingfreedom · 14/04/2015 08:00

'Such a pretty sight?'

Ludways · 15/04/2015 00:22

Thenthere, lol I never say anyone's name during sex, it sounds contrived and just plain weird. However, I get everyone's band muddled at some point.

Ludways · 15/04/2015 00:23

Band? Name.

everynameisbloodytaken · 15/04/2015 01:15

I refer to my ex as Mr everynameisbloodytaken all the time as I also worry about calling him the wrong name ie the kids or dogs names...

LividofLondinium · 15/04/2015 08:01

Whilst giving him oral sex earlier he said "such a pretty sight having my cock sucked by Susan"

Ugh, what a passion killer...and that's without the wrong name. I prefer my partners to STFU during sex coz men (IMHO) sound like twats when they talk "dirty".

Bakeoffcake · 15/04/2015 08:13

That turn of phrase is very odd. It sound like it belongs in the 18th century.

Also you say he'd never forgive you if you'd said something like that. Well, give him a taste if his own medicine and finish it. He sounds like a knob tbh.

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brunette123 · 15/04/2015 10:55

Yes am still upset about it though and it seems the consensus on here is that it is a yucky turn of phrase. He has said it before using my name (!) and to be fair he always says it quite lovingly but yes it is a bit porny. thanks for all the replies.

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Crossfitmyarse · 15/04/2015 10:58

It's a very weird and bizarre thing to say whatever name he used! I think after four years together I'd be very, very, very pissed off with him. if it had only been a few weeks or months I might be able to let it go.

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brunette123 · 15/04/2015 11:00

Yes I am pissed off and am not sure what to do really. Sadly it has implanted a vision in my head of them having sex or her doing it to him. Aaaargh.

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frankbough · 15/04/2015 12:08

Whilst at a meal with friends, I was talking about something to the group sat around the table, I mentioned my wife but used my exes name by accident (12yrs).. The men thought it was hilarious, Mrs bough was mortified.. Oops...

pocketsaviour · 15/04/2015 20:51

I'm with Bertie, I have never met anyone who used my name during sex and I don't think I've ever used anyone's name.

Actually I tend to reserve using people's names for if they're in trouble. Like "Hello darling, have you had a good day?" versus "Jeremy, we need to talk about your inability to aim at the toilet properly."

Anyway OP I would probably have just ignored this, but the fact he's trying to make it your fault would really make me Hmm.

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