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too much?

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wonderingsoul · 13/04/2015 09:49

right I need some thoughts.

iv been with my boyfriend a couple of months, hell be 30 at our 6 month mark.

his family are comimg over ( different country) so ill be meeting them. he wants to do a bbq to celebrate.

but id also like to do something special. I was thinking about a surrpise party, rent a hall get dj etc. invite his family, my friends who hes been out with n gets on with and some how get his friendsb there.

myquestion .. is this to much to much of a show for a couple whos been dating 6 months? weve both said we want this to be serious so im not worried about his commitment but is it to bih of a gesture.

I suffer from axity so I tend to over think things plus I dont normally do stuff like this.

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tethersend · 13/04/2015 09:54

I wouldn't- after six months, it would be hard to know who to invite, I think.

Could you just help organise a big party?

Dosydoly · 13/04/2015 10:06

I'd just help him organise his bbq to be honest. Maybe you could have a special surprise cake done or something?

AnyFucker · 13/04/2015 10:12

yes, too much

TokenGinger · 13/04/2015 10:13

I'd say too much. Why don't you channel that energy in to booking a weekend away for the two of you?

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wonderingsoul · 13/04/2015 10:14

I think I agree, it is and the practical side of getting more then a few of his friends there will be hard.

I really like the idea of a surrpise cake though.

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pocketsaviour · 13/04/2015 10:15

I was thinking about a surrpise party, rent a hall get dj etc.

Fucking hell, I'd about die if anyone did that to me. He's 30, not a toddler.

He wants a BBQ. Go the BBQ. Bring booze and a cake. Give him his present the morning before or whatever. The end.

AnxiousWreck · 13/04/2015 10:16

Yep, too much. He's given you a nice pointer about what he wants - A nice family BBQ, with you and his family there. Make that special, by getting nice food and a good cake, and enjoying yourself.

You risk it all going wrong if you throw a big party that he doesn't want, though, especially at 6 months. It's not about how committed you are, or whether you are in it for the long term - it's just that at 6 months, you've still got a lot to learn about each other, even if you've spent every second of those 6 months together. It'll also be his first birthday with you around, and so you'll be learning about how he is with birthdays, and his family traditions, etc.

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wonderingsoul · 13/04/2015 10:16

hmm a weekend away sounds good.

love thesenideas thanks lot better then a surrpise party

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