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have a done something wrong??

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 19:03

ok advice please

was OD for a few weeks and a guy sent me a few messages, he seemed nice and I gave him my mobile number. that was back in Dec.

Since then, he messaged me every day usually sent first message around 6am would message me up to 10pm most days. After a few weeks of this I got weary and said I was not looking for anything romantic. He stepped back a little and we sent each other one text per day. that was fine - THEN i mentioned that life was busy, I was studying loads, needed time to be in library didnt reply to his messages. he started to send me motivational quotes pics every day most days he would sent 5/6. I text back and said thanks now and again, then he started calling me out of the blue. I never answered and I just though he would back off.

20 missed calls later I have blocked him
just dont need it

2 questions: was I wrong to do that?
Is that normal behaviour from a guy?

I was honest with him and did not lead him on

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TokenGinger · 12/04/2015 19:06

Sounds like a weirdo. I started speaking to a guy from OD who lived about 50 miles from me. He started sending me a picture of himself every morning before work and said if there's any way this is going to work long distance, we need to see each other every day and pictures will need to do...

Nah. I couldn't be bothered drawing my eyebrows on that early in the morning ready for a selfie. That's a Saturday-night-once-a-month-thing.

Online dating is an eye opener.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 12/04/2015 19:07

It's not normal behaviour from a person, full stop.

I reckon you've dodged a bullet there

Quitelikely · 12/04/2015 19:07

Sounds like you've dodged a bullet.

Keep well clear. Block him if possible.

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 19:09

ok was starting to feel very guilty as one night I had enough and I just thought best thing to do is block him

poor guy
why send so many messages though
he send about 200 quotes in space of a few weeks :-0

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mortil2 · 12/04/2015 19:09

That is just weird

Cantbelievethisishappening · 12/04/2015 19:15

I had one who would call me and then read me quotes from Wind in the Willows. I think he was trying to be romantic and mysterious.

You have done the right thing
He probably thinks women like that sort of thing

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 19:15

he just did not take the hint

why send so many pictures/quotes.

I chnaged my whatsapp pic once to a sunny beach
two mins later he sent a pic he took ten years ago of him at college with three beautiful girls
he called it his 'happy pic'!!!

told him I like Malbec wine, he started sending me pics of him buying it and drinking it most weekends?? whhhhhyyyyyy???!!!!
I dont get it!!!!!!!!!

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tartyflette · 12/04/2015 19:30

He sounds like a stalker.

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 19:36

not sure if i would say stalker but def not normal behaviour
he is in his 40s im ten years younger than him

forgot to mention he sent all his blogs (20 pages :-/) from when he was in uni and asked me if I had read them
why?????? why why why??

ok now I am glad I pressed block still feel a little mean though

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 19:46

sorry title of thread should be 'have I' not 'Have a'
sorry new to mums net

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 20:57

bump

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pocketsaviour · 12/04/2015 21:02

I had one who would call me and then read me quotes from Wind in the Willows.

cantbelieve that's hilarious. Because a Classic children's book is just perfect for seducing the laydeeeez, amirite?!

OP, no it's not normal and you've definitely done right to bin him off. TBH I'd have done it after two days.

tartyflette · 12/04/2015 21:04

If he was making you uncomfortable then you definitely did the right thing by blocking him, he's not right for you. Hope you find soneone more suitable.

Charley50 · 12/04/2015 21:21

I liked your typo it made me read it in a southern US accent. Grin
He was weird. You did the right thing.

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 21:21

thank you guys

im clueless about guys
plus if im honest I felt sorry for him

dont know why I just did not hit block in jan/feb

i live and learn that's for sure

not normal at all
almost verging on stalking plus he had been googling me checking out info bout me online (why oh why did i left him have my email address)

how do you know when it is time to click block and move on??

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GoatsDoRoam · 12/04/2015 21:56

Look, some people are just like that: needy, self-involved, and all over you.

You don't need to ask "why?". You just need to know that YOU don't like that behaviour, and that it's therefore ok to block such people.

Yambabe · 12/04/2015 21:57

Was there any reason why you didn't just tell him you weren't interested?

Sounds like he was very keen on you - responding to his messages and then just cutting him off and blocking him seems a little harsh when rather than going "life is busy" and sending thanks messages no matter how occasionally you could have said "I don't want a relationship with you".

GoatsDoRoam · 12/04/2015 21:57

how do you know when it is time to click block and move on?

When their behaviour makes you uncomfortable.

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 22:37

that is true

I did mention to him quite a few times I was not interested in any romance with him

Then I kept my distance and mentioned that life was busy

I thought he would take the hint and just leave me alone but the constant phone calls drove me up the walls

clueless about OD and all that
will know for again

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dublingirl653 · 12/04/2015 22:39

thanks guys

now feel i have done the right thing

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BoozeyTuesday · 13/04/2015 09:59

In the future don't bother messaging people you're not interested in, certainly not for a prolonged period. He is a weirdo but if you have no interest best just not bother in the first place. If you're not bothered about dating at all

BoozeyTuesday · 13/04/2015 10:00

Hit reply too soon!

Should've said if you're not bothered about dating at all, you should delete your profile completely. Will save you a lot of hassle.

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