my brother and his wife live a four hour drive from me and we arranged a date for me to visit, that would be convenient to both of us. Confirming details by text on Monday, he confirmed fine to stay at theirs fri and sat night but he's 'gotta see someone sat evening' but otherwise all fine. Then on the fri afternoon DB text again to confirm i would be staying the sat night too and i said if that's still ok but whatever suits them best. He said again that fine to stay but he would be driving an hour away sat teatime to visit friend. I presumed he was prob out round town in the evening then back quite late so would just be me and SIL (who get along well with) and didn't think any more about it. Figured we still had rest of weekend to catch up etc.
I drove there straight from work on Friday night, getting there late evening. Was told soon after i got there that in fact DB was staying at his friend's house sat night (and guessing most of Sunday morning, as would have a hangover) and that SIL was staying the night at one of her friend's houses, so whilst i was welcome to stay at theirs i would be on my own from late sat afternoon and prob most of morning too, i would then usually leave early sun afternoon to drive home again. The choice was mine whether i stayed or came home, so i said i would come home sat afternoon instead.
I thought we usually get along fairly well, i enjoy their company and love them both and presumed the feeling was mutual. It is true that both me and DB aren't exactly talkers, but no issues etc that i am aware of. What would you make of this situation? I was actually quite upset and didn't exactly feel welcome on my visit.
I thought it was ver? rude to wait till i was there to tell me they were both spending one night elsewhere. If they had said beforehand, i could have chosen to reschedule for a more convenient time/ just stay the one night. It felt as though i was being pushed out. My sister (who lives nearby) was shocked that they had done that, and DH was really pissed off and thought it was a pretty horrible thing to do. I would never do that to guests, let alone when they had driven for 4 hours to visit me.
Part of me wonders whether they find it too hard work to spend the entire weekend with me - not noticed a problem in past, but they would never say anything. I don't see any point in talking to DB about it, as would just get defensive/ make me look like a drama queen. But I am thinking maybe next time i should just stay in a nearby hotel and just meet up for a few hours instead. What would you make of this situation? Would you be upset if you were me? What would you do for future visits?