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Original poster

Having a Relationship with member of my family ..is it wrong ?

31 replies

louisedinah · 12/04/2015 12:08

I don't know what to do end it or not .
My gran has a sister ,her son has a son who has a step son ..it's not he's real son he married he's mother when he was 7 years old but calls him dad .
We met on a night out ,never met in our lives as that side of the family are not close .
Starting seeing each other not realising ..we aren't related ..but still are if that makes sense .
We really like each other but not sure what I want to do ..so it's my grans sisters, son who has a son who has a step son ..
Wrong ? Ok ? Advice

OP posts:
JeanSeberg · 12/04/2015 12:11

I gave up trying to understand the family tree lol but if you're not related what's the problem?

RandomMess · 12/04/2015 12:12

It's not wrong at all and if you're not a close family if you break up it's not going to divide the family is it?

Original poster
louisedinah · 12/04/2015 12:13

Ha ha I know it was confusing I should of said my great aunt who has a son ,he's son ,well it's he's step son lol

OP posts:
handfulofcottonbuds · 12/04/2015 12:13

I'm sorry OP, I may not have understood the family bit but I don't see a problem if you're not related.

Yambabe · 12/04/2015 12:13

Perfectly fine, you are not blood-related at all and even on a family tree you are something like 3rd or 4th cousins.

If you like each other go for it!

GlitzAndGigglesx · 12/04/2015 12:14

So you're "related" through marriage? Not wrong then

NuggetofPurestGreen · 12/04/2015 12:14

So he's your second cousin's stepson?? I think you're okay Wink

Nightingalemumoftwo · 12/04/2015 12:14

it's not wrong but hard to figure out if you can't spell "his".

AuntieStella · 12/04/2015 12:15

So it's a (step) second cousin.

That's permitted by the Prayer Book, so to that extent sanctioned and legal.

Whether it's a good idea within your particular family, no idea.

Maliceaforethought · 12/04/2015 12:17

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Admiraltea · 12/04/2015 12:17

You are allowed to marry your first cousin in England so absolutely no problem at all.

FenellaFellorick · 12/04/2015 12:18

it's not illegal. Chances are the two of you share no more dna than you and I do.

It really all depends on how you and he feel about it. And, to a lesser extent, how the rest of the family do.

Eminybob · 12/04/2015 12:25

I don't think it would be wrong even if he wasn't a step son as its so far removed, so not an issue at all as it is.

nightingale why? Perhaps if you couldn't figure out what the op meant with a typo in it then you are less than intelligent yourself?

Crossfitmyarse · 12/04/2015 12:37

Blimey well I totally lost track of how, why or even if you are related, so I'd say if it's that tenuous then you don't need to worry about it!

ALaughAMinute · 12/04/2015 12:41

Not wrong, but if you are blood-related, I think you should do some research if you are planning to have children with him as there might be complications.

Original poster
louisedinah · 12/04/2015 13:01

No we aren't blood related
Sorry for my confusing post of how we are related

OP posts:
shewept · 12/04/2015 13:07

Its your great aunts, grandsons step son?

Not a big deal

AnyFucker · 12/04/2015 13:22

I don' t see a problem with this

Original poster
louisedinah · 12/04/2015 13:22

Yes that's right ..why didn't I think of explaining it like that ??

OP posts:
Ratfinkandbobo · 12/04/2015 13:29

You're not blood related, therefore not a problem.

shewept · 12/04/2015 14:04

I made a family tree in my head op....glad I got it right! Grin

Aridane · 12/04/2015 16:01

No problem! Thought this was going to be an agonised incest confession...

Lavenderice · 13/04/2015 15:49

I make him a fourth step-cousin. Am I right, is there a prize?

Either way that's perfectly fine OP!

blueberrypie0112 · 13/04/2015 15:58

happens all the time in small towns where I live. hence why everyone say everyone is related to everyone (without the incest, of course)

blueberrypie0112 · 13/04/2015 16:00

Anyway, if you don't feel right about it, then don't go forward with the relationship.