Men that give the silent treatment

[SilentTreatment]

I wonder what you guys think of those Mr Unavailables that blow hot and cold. Romance the hell out of you one moment, then follow this with a disappearing act, only to contact you a few days later as if nothing happened.

Obviously they're asshats and not worthy of our time. I'm just curious about the whole phenomenon - do they actually find this way of interacting with women fulfilling?

Have you met men like this? What was your experience? Share! So we can wise up about this strange breed.

confusedoflondon He'll suddenly go silent for a day or two completely unprovoked and then finally text and act like nothing happened. He does this regularly. Most recent time was after I had spent two nights at his. The next day - complete silence. He's done this before and I told him then that I didn't find it respectful.

And yes, I know I've been taken for a mug this time, and I've pulled the plug.

oh yip yip people don't normally agree with me

Anyhow, whatever happens I hope it works out as you wish OP

Mini how long were you with that car crash? Who ended it?

How long have you been seeing him Silenttreatment ? I only ask because I've been with oh 6/7 months and spend every weekend with him. It's not unusual for me to not hear from him next day and at first I read that as him picking up and dropping me. Then I realised its not that at all. It's just him feeling secure enough to have space and give it me after bonding with me all weekend . I see it as a massive positive and as I say we are half a year down the line and dare I say really happy. I like that he gets that I don't need contact with him every 24 hours IYSWIM it empowers me. I love him and trust that he will come back lovingly and he always does and that's fulfilling. It's the whole actions speak louder than words (or texts!!) I know every situation different though.

It was actually the other thread I agreed with you on Minitheminx but still counts

Silent I would call that behaviour (spending time with you and then getting in touch two days later) totally normal, not the cold shoulder. If it is a rule for you that to be in a relationship with you a man has to make contact with you every day by phone, text or email, then make that explicitly clear from the outset. They might be happy to do that, they might not. I personally wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I was expected to make contact every day. Doesn't make me a game player.

I was sooo happy too

Twattergy everything I was saying put a lot more succinctly put

I'm confused Silent. Do you expect a man to contact you daily when you don't see him?

Or are you saying you expected some romantic gesture/ contact the day after you'd slept with him?

You see DH and I dated long before mobiles were invented and it was a LDR for 3 years. We saw each other at weekends for years - and in between we'd speak perhaps once during the week ( landline.)

I would hate to think that you were ditching a promising relationship because the guy didn't conform to your expectations- because they might be unrealistic.

Oh not long. I don't do a Florence and I am hopeless at fixing things.

You know it's silent treatment when you have a minor disagreement and they punish you by giving you the silent treatment. In your scenario it could just be that he had had a nice weekend with you and was doing his own thing for a couple of days.
The thing is, if he usually texts or calls everyday and suddenly doesn't, it can feel like silent treatment even if it isn't.