Separated but don't really miss my husband, trying to work out why?

[Jemima8]

Hi, has anyone left a marriage and actually not felt really upset. My husband and I separated 6 months ago (married 5 years, no children). We had a fairly harmonious marriage (no real conflict, did lots of things together we both enjoyed) but I came to realise for various reasons I couldn't spend the rest of my life with him, he wasn't the right person.
I have had some really sad moments (but I think now these were more out of sadness of not being with someone anymore / loneliness). I sleep peacefully without him, don't really miss him as a person, don't really miss talking to him but do miss having someone to do things with. I'm often thinking about hoping to meet someone I could really love in the future and spend my life with rather than looking back at what was. Am I being emotionally cold or is this really a sign I was married to the wrong man?

I'd say you were just married to the wrong person and good luck for the future!

You don't miss him, you miss being with someonez

Thanks for such quick replies and the good luck!
Yes, I think I probably do just miss being with someone.

I was starting to wonder about myself as I've read so many posts of upsetting separations and I just don't feel that way. I'm sure people must wonder why I'm not more distraught but I'm just not. I won't say it hasn't been stressful or a difficult decision to separate but when we do occasionally meet, I fairly easily say goodbye and don't miss him.

I sleep peacefully without him, don't really miss him as a person, don't really miss talking to him but do miss having someone to do things with.

Yeah I was the same after my last partner, who left me for another woman. My life is better in pretty much every way. But we did have great sex and I miss having someone to go on holiday with or out for meals.