unsaid history. family friend

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Hi
since i was born my parents had a few good friends i used to regard as aunty and
uncles.
However with a certain friend who they knew from where they first lived there has always been a question mark above.my head.
firstly there is one photo of me with him as a baby but no photos of me with my dad what i have seen until around 18months.
he doesn't have children of his own so it could be the case he sees me like an adopted daughter but here is what has bothered me.
He recently followed me on twitter and only me and asked for my number despite not seeing him since my wedding 14 years ago. Wants to get in touch with me rather than parents. I feel really uneasy about it because i have moved away and if they did want to meet it would have to be a formal gathering rather than oh lets meet up town for an hour
what do i do ladies. I have saved his number but not got in touch because once i do i will have him back in my life. My parents don'T want to see him and i feel awkward.

If you don't want to see him, politely decline. Though, it sounds like there's more to this. What's the question mark? Do you suspect he is your dad, or was involved with your mum?

Yes i am wondering exactly that. But i have also been told that i have too much time to think about things. I just don't get why he didn't stay in touch after my wedding and contacted me out of the blue. Not found out my parents number from 192.

hmmm. It genuinely then comes down to whether you'll be happy letting sleeping dogs lie, or you need the question answered. Maybe you could email him with something like your op, rather than meet?

Yes thats a good idea.

Can you have a discreet word with your mum and ask the question?

Why don't your parents want to see him?

i have also been told that i have too much time to think about things

Who said this?

I asked her once as a teenager. Response was my dad is my dad. But i find it so strange how he is contacting me.
oh my sister said i have to much time to think!
I don't know he used to be around an awful lot at their first and second house. Maybe it was a boundary thing? They moved away too and didn't tell him they had moved. I thought that was mean and unless he has done something out of order their behaviour towards him is odd. Then i asked them in a text well u should have told me if u wanted no contact because he has replied now. They thought he would not reply back.