AIBU for him to want to spend time at home?

[Mardypants2015]

I don't have a job and I look after our two children. DH works full time and usually goes out once a week. However, this week he has been out a few nights on the trot because a few events have happened quite close together. It's a one-off though and not a regular occurrence.

He was quite tired for the nights he was in afterwards, and I was a bit upset that he fell asleep quite so soon after finishing work, leaving me to deal with the kids etc. He does sometimes get a bit cross with me as admittedly I could do more around the house - I am not the cleanest of people and household chores take a backseat to my nap times and television watching when the kids are at school. I am ashamed that the house is always quite a mess but as I am unemployed, I know I should be doing more.

He wanted to go out tonight and I was upset that he hadn't been at home much this week so I thought it was unfair.

He sometimes gets upset that the house is a mess when he comes back home from a long day at work. Do you think my uncleanliness is making him not want to spend much time at home or should he do what I ask him to do?

Is this a reverse?

I thought reverse too.

I think your husband is an arsehole. Especially for posting this one sided reverse. LTB.

Cross posted - I see I'm not the only one!

How much housework does he do? Even if you are at home with the children all day, your 'job' is childcare. Domestic work is a shared responsibility.

Why is the op's husband a wanker ? It is possible to tidy the house while the children are at school. The op is nt looking after the children during school hours is she ?

The husband's a wanker but he quite clearly wrote the op in a bid to shame his wife and drum up support from a load of random on the Internet. There's no way his wife wrote that!

"Because" not "but" in the first line!

The kids are at school and she spends the days napping and watching TV. The house is always a 'mess'.

Yes, he's probably avoiding the house and you. He probably resents supporting someone who's dossing.

"household chores take a backseat to my nap times and television watching" - reverse, obviously.

And this "he sometimes gets upset that the house is a mess when he comes back home after a long day at work". It's the word "long" in the sentence. No-One other than the person working would use the phrase "long day at work".

I read that as " I come in from a long day at work and kick off because the house isn't to my standards as the lazy bitch has spent all day napping and watching Jeremy Kyle "