"I am a busy wife and mother..."

[morningpaper]

I can't BEAR hearing this phrase.

Why, exactly, does being a "WIFE" make you busy?

Please explain this to me.

Looking after your DH's needs, presumably (cooking, cleaning, putting his slippers by the fire, and such like).

agree mp

cant see why being a wife and mum

can make you busy

I do have a life (small one albeit) beyond being a skivvy

Know what you mean, mind. Bit of a strange one.

Well, considering DH is the one who gets up at all hours to go to work, I see it as my "duty" to be a wife (as I see it) and make sure he comes home to a clean house, food... etc. But, then, I do that as a mum aswell. I see being a wife as a sort of job aswell (a good one!) Its just the way I am.

I AM a busy wife and mother...as in I am a wife...and I am a mother...and I am busy...like I AM a busy woman...because I am a woman...and busy.
But agree...this phrase is often used to imply that simply being a wife makes you busy...nope...being a stay at home in charge of the house wife does though I suspect (never did it...).

Well, im busy being a mum to my child and keeping the house tidy and food on the table.

You know the type, good and old fashioned, no time for me unless I really squeeze it in and then its probably an hour up the gym.

Dont bother me though, I like my own company, spent years at the top of the workplace and it wasnt a patch on the workload I have today.

shagging is a lot of work.

I think phrases like this are usually a defensive response to being belittled by someone (usually another woman) who works outside the home and enjoys making SAHMs feel like amoebae. I was filling in a form yesterday and wrote "full-time mother" because I couldn't bear to tick the box marked "unemployed". We all say idiotic things when we feel hurt or humiliated.

It amazes me how many ways women (me included) have of making one another feel like a waste of oxygen.

great job satisfaction expat

Oh stop whining, morningpaper... you know you want to be a little Wifey.

As opposed to a little wiffy which is something you should see a doctor about.

Whenever I was told someone is busy, I would reply 'isnt everyone?'

Being a mum makes me busy, not being a wife.
If I was not a mum, I would be at work and we would share housework.
We share it now equally tbh but I do always make sure he has a cooked meal ready for when he gets in from work.

At weekends we both share cooking and childcare as I often escape on an afternoon for some me time.

So being a wife doesn't really make me busy but being a mum def does

Ahh yes Kama, but I would easily swap my 14 hours of work with home and kids for normal go to work stuff only cos it easier. Unless he is breaking rocks by hand I am sure his working day is less stressful than your one at home.

we are not all too busy to be on here though are we

we just make it look that way
when he comes home

yeh i know all the tricks about a 5min clean up before he is due home

and putting dinner on in a slow cooker

cant fool me you lazy lot LOL

Busy full time working single mother of five sounds busier, except you don't have the sexual duties I suppose or washing and cooking relating to the man but in fact in a lot of marriages men and women do things equally so having the man around is easier than not having him around.

I can only assume that this means that, by being married, you take on additional housework

Does anyone ever say "I am a busy cohabitee and mother!"

Or "I am a busy girlfriend and mother!"

they do not

I'm sorry, did someone just say "sexual duties" ?

Shagging is hard work - all that self preservation - mingetopiary, leg shaving, waxing, sexy undies etc etc

love it northerner mingetopiary

I think Morningpaper that its live and let live - if being a wife /mother makes some people busy (and happy?) then so be it...

why get bent out of shape?

mp is hung up about marriage

she is married already OBV btu she pretendds not to be

Yes yes

I'm very happy for those wimmin who are very busy being wives