An odd question - has anyone ever been told that you talk too much about your friends ?

[moomoo1967]

DP of nearly 7 years has said he is fed up of me talking about my friends. It has never bothered him before so why now. I must admit that the past year has been particularly gruelling and my friends have been there for me come rain or shine....jealousy maybe ???

That's odd if it's never bothered him before, not that it should! He should be happy that you have friends who are there for you, it does sound like a bit of jealousy to me. Have you spoken to him about why he feels this way?

I have said that part of being in a relationship is that you chat about each others days, what on earth else are you supposed to chat about. Admittedly the past couple of years for myself and my friends have been hellish. He has been out of work for the past 3 months and to be truthful has been hellish

No - but I do feel this way about my sister

you chat about each others days, what on earth else are you supposed to chat about[...] He has been out of work for the past 3 months

I'm guessing he probably feels shit that he can't come home any more and say "You'll never guess what happened at work today..." or whatever.

I spent 6 months unemployed after redundancy and it was awful. My DP-of-the-time came home every day from work and he'd tell me about his day and then say "What did you get up to?" and I'd have to answer "Nothing". It was shit, it made me feel useless, and I did get snappy with him sometimes. As in, sometimes my answer was "Nothing, like every fucking day, do you need to ask?"

Snap Aridane!

I can bang on a bit about anything and everything to DH and have had to be gently (and very kindly) told to talk a bit less about something. That's rare though and we do chat a lot.

It might just be really boring to him
I wouldn't want my partner to bang on endlessly about their friends. Mutual friends, ok.

It depends on what you are saying about your friends. Gossiping or general stuff like Kate is pregnant or Will is starting a new job this month.

We don't actually live together anyway so he doesn't come home and I am all on it, it maybe once or twice a week and I would get that which is why I am reluctant to talk about work things so maybe I have been talking more about friend things

It sounds to me like he may be a bit isolated, lonely and a bit jealous. It can be horrible being out of work and on your own all day - it sounds great but it's not like having a day off work. It can drag and make you feel terrible about yourself.

Perhaps he needs to be encouraged to meet up with some of his friends, or to make new ones during the day instead of staying in?

Don't move in with him.

It's a bit of a red flag when a man decides you have too many friends. Certainly was looking back on my EA XH.

Could be an early sign of impending arsholiness - or just that he's a grumpy git.