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DH and sleep pattern

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40slady · 08/04/2015 21:40

This may sound silly but my DH always want to go to sleep at a certain time , ie 10.30 lights out ..
sometimes i want to carry on reading or talking but its lights off as hes tired
i know i can keep my light on and read , but just feels so final and night over ..then i cant sleep as hes breathing heavy ..lol so i then go on the sofa ..
anyone els have funny patterns like us lol ...

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karmagetsyou · 08/04/2015 21:49

This is why I am single Confused

pocketsaviour · 08/04/2015 21:50

I was the opposite way around with my last partner. I like a regular early night, and when I was with him I used to be up at 5.30am for work. He on the other hand would come to bed at 2 or 3am, but was a nightmare to wake up in the morning.

I think if you're not sleepy it's better to stay up, then you're not disturbing your partner with light or books. Although if you get a Kindle you can read it without the light disturbing him, maybe that would work? Sometimes ex would come to bed with me, we'd have sex, then I'd go to sleep and he'd lie there reading or watching a film on his ipad.

AnyFucker · 08/04/2015 21:50

God, it sounds like a laugh a minute at your gaff

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 08/04/2015 21:52

Yeah, my DP is very much on the 'get in bed, light off and sleep' team. Whereas I used to be tempted to sit and read or chat or something before sleeping, if I didn't go to bed totally knackered. Because of this, if I'm not tired when he is (and I rarely am), I just stay up in the other room.

Right now he's on early early morning shifts too, getting up at 3am, so I just stay up until he's left instead of disturbing him at about 12 or 1 to get in bed.

I think our sex life might be more active if we were in the habit of going to bed at the same time and if he didn't expect to immediately go to sleep when we did. Grin I honestly think we might end up as one of those couples that have separate bedrooms and make it work.

AnnieMoor · 08/04/2015 21:52

Don't know why you're lolling - it sounds bloody awful.

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 08/04/2015 21:55

pocketsaviour's post reminded me actually - I often spend some time reading on my Kindle on a low light setting or playing a game on my phone (with it under the duvet because it's too bright on the lowest setting). I'll clarify that while it sounds pretty much exactly like me, I am not in fact pocketsaviour's ex. Blush

TokenGinger · 08/04/2015 23:01

I think in a relationship there is give and take. I know you laugh, but sleep is obviously a very serious thing.

I stayed over with DP last night and by 5.00pm, I was yawning, almost incoherent, struggling to drive my car. He was watching TV until gone midnight and eventually, I know it's a conversafiin we'll need to have if things progress with us. I'm an 8 hours a night girl and I need that to function properly.

If your DP needs that, I'd probably do what you're doing and stay on the sofa until you're ready to sleep yourself so you're not disturbing him :) x

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40slady · 09/04/2015 07:58

last night i fell asleep with him Smile in our bed and was after 10.30 ...
i think yes give and take is important and he does work a physical job , up and out by 7.30 .
I need my sleep to tokenginger im crap the next day if tired as i to work a physical job , 2 kids etc so know what you mean x

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