I'm a mess :( (potential triggering) (title amended by MNHQ)

[Mavisblewitt]

ok, wrote a really long post and it disappeared :(

About 28 years ago I (think) I was sexually assaulted by my bus driver when I was 16. It was a rural route, the last stop, no other witnesses.
Basically he grabbed my crotch as I walked past him. I ran home, bloody scared and didn't go to college for 2weeks. Couldn't tell my mum because she was going through some bad stuff with my Dad (That's another story)
Anyway I confided in another driver who was kind of like a dad to me and I never saw him again.
Fast forward to 4 years ago, the nasty driver now lives across my street!i posted last weekend about his behaviour regarding parking on our street, he is always shouting and being aggressive to us about where we park our cars (there's plenty of room it's not an issue)
I HATE it when my hubby goes out to work, I'm scared he will knock on my door and have a go, every time I see him I feel like that scared 16 year old girl again...
What can you advise, please?

I think others who will come along will be much more knowledgeable than me but I wonder whether you should go to the police. It was a sexual assault. So sorry...how awful

Pressed post too soon. To me, it's irrelevamt that this occurred many years ago. In fact, it makes it worse as you were so young.

It's unlikely to be prosecuted at this late stage, sadly, but does he still work for the same bus company?

It was over 30 years ago, with no witnesses and I really don't feel like I have the strength to go through it all.
We (me and other half) have decided to look for a new house and move, I have May half term booked off work so off to see our financial advisor to speak mortgages and what we can afford. If I can move out of this cul de sac I will be much happier, we both hate it here.
Thank you for your replies it means a lot xx

And no pocket he is now retired, spends his time sitting by his living room window watching the entire street, makes me very uncomfortable x

If you want to move anyway then maybe this could be the impetus that leads you into a better and happier home.

spends his time sitting by his living room window watching the entire street

It's no surprise he's ended up a sad and lonely old man.

Sorry for what he put you through as a teen, by the way, forgot to say earlier

Do you know something?
When i posted this I was a bit drunk
Then i deliberately stayed away from mumsnet, too scared to see what would be posted here, maybe being told to report it to the police, etc which wasn't what I wanted, I just wanted to tell someone!
Thank you so much for your kind replies, it has made me feel so much better :)
I am now motivated to getting the house up together to sell (if you have any tips they would be much appreciated!) xx

Sorry this happened to you.

We sold our house last year, declutter but don't depersonalise too much. Make sure it's clean and tidy and well presented. If there are any small jobs you have been putting off, do them. Make sure you have kerb appeal, scruffy gardens/front can be off putting.

Be realistic about the price. One thing that puts buyers off is a house that's sat on the market for ages or that's over priced, they won't even get through the door else.

Good luck.

Oh, take some photos as it is now and try and look objectively at them to see if anything needs changing. I put some on here! A lot of advice was ridiculous and I ignored but there were a few good tips of things that I couldn't really see as I was so used to it.