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NC father has sent a "goodbye" email. Ignore?

29 replies

CaulkheadUpNorth · 07/04/2015 21:39

We've been no contact for about six weeks. He has sent me two emails during that time, and I've opened them when I've felt ready. I opened one tonight he sent, and it just says "Goodbye".

My gut reaction is to ignore it, but I'm slightly concerned it could be a way of saying he is going to kill himself, and if that is the case, do I have a responsibility or something to contact someone?

OP posts:
cozietoesie · 07/04/2015 22:54

I recognize what people (and you) are saying about contacting the police but I would nonethless simply ignore it.

He's not only trying to stir you up into a response of some sort but he is not your responsibility.

plentyofshoes · 07/04/2015 23:10

I have been getting "I am dying goodbye" messages for nc mother for around 7 years now.

Ignore.

PeppermintCrayon · 08/04/2015 00:05

Ignore, block, and google 'toxic people hoovering".

monkeysaymoo · 08/04/2015 00:12

I would ignore personally or pass the responsibility to another family member.

I had a similar experience with an ex who would constantly phone to say he was going to hurt himself. I kept getting sucked in. One night he phoned to say he had a bottle of pills and was driving somewhere remote to kill himself so I phoned his dad and told him everything. His Dad found him at home eating take away and watching a film. Apparently his dad went bat shit at him and frog marched him to the GP's the next day "to sort his f-ing head out". Funnily enough once a few people knew about his so called suicide threats he didn't make anymore.

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