Problem with sex life when it should still be chandalier swinging time!!

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In a nutshell - Am in a LDR with dp. Met through OD and have been together four months. We see each other every week and take turns travelling to see each other. He is 38 I am 44. The sex has been amazing and plentiful week in week out and all has been well. However the last two occasions we have made love he has been unable to maintain an erection through penatrative sex - just like that. Seemingly overnight! He apologised and said he is under a lot of work related stress and I was understanding it just seems such a 360 change overnight that it has taken me by surprise. Ive never experienced this before so not sure what if anything I can/should do. We are very happy and in love and tell each other every day/speak/message every day so I feel the relationship is as solid as it can be for the stage we are at . Any advice or experience please? Is it likely to just right itself?

I think if you don't put any focus on his dick and just let the stress at work sort itself out, things will probably work out on their own. Maybe take penetrative sex off the menu for now?

I think you're right. Yesterday he was trying to basically force it and I had to (gently) insist he stop and gave him lots of hugs and things but I don't want to coddle him too much and emasculate him nor do I want to be anything other than affectionate and loving towards him. We got there by alternate means and that was fine its just the quickness of the effects of the stress that have really confused me.

Thing is once it happened once it can often lead to it happening again due to nervousness and anxiety. I think the way you dealt with it was great but not making it a big deal and moving on. That's what I would (and have had done).