Bit of background - together for 20 years, married for 10, two DC. I haven't been 100% happy for quite a few years but carried on plodding along, however of late things are becoming more strained. He irritates me intensely, and I seem to irritate him now - judging by snidy comments and face-pulling I am now noticing. For many years I have not commented on his 'faults', partly due to a misplaced sense of guilt over being a SAHM mum and not contributing much financially to the household. Also partly as he doesn't deal well with criticism and is very defensive, spinning arguments around so it's someone else's fault (i.e. Mine). The result of this is obviously me bottling up resentment, but I've had enough and need to stop this before it's too late (if not already). We're not great at communicating, other than day to day talk about work, kids etc.., so I really don't know how he will take this. I can't imagine that we would be able to objectively discuss our issues ourselves without direction, i.e. A relationship counsellor. I just don't see him agreeing to counselling. For those of you who have been through counselling, what was your OH's reaction when counselling was suggested? I am also a little worried that however we proceed (with counselling or without) there could be hurtful things said that it may be difficult to recover from. I feel like I am at the top of slippery slope that there may be no way back from. There is a small part of me though that has had enough and wants to slide down the slope.