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Feeling a bit blue

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ovenisdrivingmecrazy · 06/04/2015 23:23

Broke up with partner of nearly 6 years about 6 weeks ago. Had been coming for a bit, so not a complete shock but I had really thought that we'd be able to work through the bad patch so left feeling hurt and confused and pretty devastated by the break up. I can rationalise why it happened and the fact it was probably "for the best" but honestly it's not what I wanted and I wish that he'd felt the same.

We were living together so I moved out and back to my mums for now as there is a bit of a situation with the rental agreement and I'm not in a financial position to pay London rent on two places at the same time.

Was feeling fairly positive (or telling myself I was) about a new phase/opportunities last week but this weekend and particularly tonight I just miss him so so much. I think this is compounded by being back at home for the first time since I left for uni and the connotations of that, and the fact we had a really tight group of mutual friends who all moved to London after uni and I'm struggling to feel like I have a place anymore. They're my best mates and have been so supportive but I just don't feel comfortable or myself when I'm with them but I worry if stop seeing them - I'll have nobody left.

Basically sitting in my childhood bedroom bawling and feeling sorry for myself with nobody to talk to so spilling my feelings on here. Not sure what I'm asking - maybe someone could tell me to get a grip?!

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cozietoesie · 06/04/2015 23:34

It comes in waves.

How is it going with your Mum eg how is she reacting to having you back?

ovenisdrivingmecrazy · 06/04/2015 23:41

She's been so great and so kind and a big positive for me has been getting to spend time with her. And I'm so so so grateful that she just scooped me up and took me in at a moments notice. But I'm conscious that hanging out at home and watching endless reruns of Lewis (her fave) is probably not going to help me get back on my feet in the long run... but the facing up to reality part seems rather daunting at the moment.

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Cheeseandwinegirl · 07/04/2015 00:01

Oh OP I'm sorry life is being rubbish for you tonight :(

6 years is a long time so it's ok to still not feel great. I hope your family and friends are being supportive. I know it can be rubbish when things go tits up but I promise eventually it will be ok, even though it hurts right now.

Hope you can get some sleep tonight x

cozietoesie · 07/04/2015 00:28

Maybe a short period of sinking back would be OK for you though? Just until you get your thoughts straightened out.

ovenisdrivingmecrazy · 07/04/2015 08:11

Thanks both. Didn't sleep much but feeling more positive this morning so thanks for listening/reading!

I'm not really a sinking back sort of person - much more comfortable being in complete control of my feelings and situation so this is a bit of a learning curve I guess! Not been in this situation since my first big dramatic heartbreak at 20 and I think I'd forgotten how lost and crazy it makes you feel...

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