Feeling lonely

[Applecrumbling]

6 years since my exh left me with our 18 month old ds. Ds is away with him and his new partner this weekend getting waited on by his parents, going out for Easter Sunday lunch, Easter egg hunting etc. meanwhile I'm alone reliving what it used to be like, working overtime. He told me no one would care and it seems to be proving right. My mum lives v close, heard nothing from her all weekend. My dad the other side of town and I get a text message. I feel let down. I have friends and hobbies, I actively get out there. However have low self esteem and split with a new partner of 4 yrs at Christmas (my choice) became abusive. I can't seem to move on. I'm still in marital home, feeling stuck in time. Any ideas? V sorry for feeling sorry for myself today!

Hi Apple, sorry to hear your feeling lonely. I've been there, albeit 20 years ago but it's bloody hard. You seem to be doing everything that people would recommend like being with friends, having hobbies etc. What about trying online dating and having some fun? I bet there's hundreds of like minded people out there feeling the same. You sound lovely, be kind to yourself . Take care

Thanks for your reply. I really hope this is a phase in my life that will pass but I just seem stuck in the same place.. I'm scared of old. It's how I met my most recent ex and he became overpowering/stalking/abusive. It's put me off! I really don't have the belief I'll meet anyone suitable...

Hi, I didn't want to read and run as I've had lots of lovely messages of support myself in the last 24 hours.

Is it as lovely out where you are as it is here today? Could you go for a quick walk and come back and have a bath? I'm planning on seeing if there is anything crap on TV tonight to (hopefully) fall asleep to. Bit of choc in? Glass of wine?

I know only too well how you are feeling today. The last thing I need is to be alone. Keep posting on MN, read some MN classics, keep yourself distracted.

I know it's only going to help you today..as for in general, I can't really say as I need to work on that myself!

Hope you have a nice evening

Thanks, you're right lost again today..but I feel all I do is distracted myself or block out, probably the reason I'm not moving forward.. But good suggestions there.. Yes it's a beautiful night and feel lonely seeing people sat in beer gardens and families and seem to miss both my exh and exp??!!

You will have that happiness again, there's a prince charming out there for everyone who'll treat you the way you deserve to be. In the mean time, put some music on, have a bath, pour a glass of wine and decide what trashy tv your going to watch later. Keep smiling, life's too short not to be

I'm in much the same situation today, I've been out and about but come home and just on my own. At times like these I wonder what I walked away from and question whether it's better to be in a wrong relationship than alone but then remember that if I did that I'd never have the chance of meeting Mr Right.

Hope you don't feel so lonely now.

It will get better Apple .

And don't imagine for one moment that all those people in the beer garden are living idyllic lives . They're not.

That's a really good point Izzy, no one knows what goes on behind close doors. My marriage is going through some issues but I'm a very good actress, even down the pub!