Is anyone awake? Partner has broken up with me and I'm devastated.

[LostAgainToday]

My partner has told me they can't be with me anymore and I'm absolutely devastated.

I don't know what to do with myself, I'm so sad. I can't feel anything at the moment other than crushing sadness and I've cried and cried all day.

I barely slept last night and I can't sleep now, I've taken Kalms but it isn't helping. I feel red hot and my head is a total mess.

DS is with his dad thankfully but is back in 2 days. I don't know how I'm going to cope again. I had a very long relationship end over 3 years ago and I feel as crushed now as I did then. DS is 7. He is part of the reasonpartner is going as they have been finding it too hard. Partner is suffering from Anxiety too. I have lost my job in the last 3 months and have other very stressful things happening.

I don"t really know what I want anyone to say...I don't know what to say myself I'm just so overwhelmed.

Yes, it does suck but you have done better so far than you thought you would. Three days ago you were worried about your DS coming back and now he is and you're coping.
No one can say what the future holds but for now just keep going and it will get easier. Night.

Hey all,

She has gone. I have waited a week to find out that in the end she can't cope with being in a relationship we me because she finds it too hard with DS.

She came over today and we were supposed to be talking and trying to work things out and try and move forward together but she admitted that the biggest issue was DS. She says it's not him, it's her and her inability to cope with it. It doesn't make it ANY easier. I'm so, so hurt and devastated all over again. I would have done anything for her and done what I could to make it work but if she can't do it then there is no future. I love her so much and that is what makes it even harder. She says she loves me and that makes it even shittier.

I don't know what to feel now. I'm just so desperately sad.

I'm alone again tonight and am going nuts here. I feel so angry too. I feel so let down. I feel rejected...all of it.

I'm so sad for DS, he loves her and thinks the world of her. He has been wondering where she is and waiting for her to come back - what am I going to say to him?

I can barely type through the tears...I just feel so lost and so shit

Oh Lost, I'm so sorry
You don't need to tell DS anything much right now. Just say she's gone away for a while.
If she can't cope with your DS now, then there's nothing you can do I'm afraid.
Take care of yourself

This is for the best in the long run. You sound like a fantastic mum and you shouldn't be expected to compromise between your partner and your ds, especially when he's so little and has been so welcoming to her.

Some people just cannot cope with step parenting. It's entirely her loss in both you and ds. It feels unbelievably shit now but it will pass, you will get strong again, and you will find something better for you and for ds.

I am terribly sorry lost
All I can say is echo the sentiment that in the long run it might be for the best - having had a stepparent who did not get me at all, was not a great place to be in. Having got a teenager of my own, who I gave birth to, but am struggling with atm, in six years time when your son is 13 it could have got really bad for all of you. Regarding what you say to your son, you don't tell him in any way that it was anything to do with him, not now, not when he is grown. Because it really is her problem, not his.
So you tell him that sometimes relationships don't work out and that your girlfriend has moved out because she wants to be on her own and that none of us can force someone else to be with us if they need their own space but that you will always always be there for him and you are not going anywhere.
I know it is going to be painful for you both but you need to keep going for him as well as yourself.
Virtual hug x

Thank you all

I know DS must never know any of the reasons why - it is because she can't cope. Nothing to do with him and how he is. He is a lovely, kind boy and I would never make him think he had anything to do with her leaving.

I didn't sleep brilliantly and feel exhausted in every way but I have to get up and out this morning as I have an appointment with my Solicitor.

I may get a job interview this week too. It will be tough but I need to work on moving forward without her.

I feel angry at her now. She must have known that she felt this way and let me sit and stew and hope all week we could sort it. She didn't just decide on a whil yesterday that this was the biggest issue when we started talking.

She has left me when I need support the most. I have no job and a possible upcoming tribunal and I needed her to be there for me. She has gone when the going got tough.

I'm better off without her. It may not feel that way now but I know it is the truth.

Thank you for the virtual hugs and support. You lot are fab x