What now.

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So I've been posting on the step parenting thread about how my adult son (22) has been coming between my DH and I and basically being a pain. I've put the thread below but basically its cone to a head and my son is moving to his Dads. I feel immense sadness but couldn't have my DS walk over me anymore. I'm worried about how our relationship will be, I know the one with my DH will MUCH better. Just feel I've driven my son out :-(

Here is the thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/stepparenting/2297499-Husband-vs-my-adult-son-battle

I've been there, I feel your pain, it's awful I know.

All you can do now is make a real effort to have a good relationship with your son, minus your OH, sorry but he wont love him the way you do, I don't believe step parents do unless they actually bring kids up from an early age. Your son will probably always resent him but if you keep showing him how much you do love him, hopefully he won't hold it against you............no offence to your OH but I bet he was slightly over critical and your son will be super sensitive to anything HE has to say.

Hi Jan45, thank you and yes it hurts, even though he's 22. It's been a tough few years and I can't lie that life will be easier without my son living at home, I just wish he was moving to a place of his own as opposed to his Dad's.

He is still your boy and even at 22 not yet fully grown imo.

I hope you all get a favourable result in the end.

Yes he very much is. His dad walked out when he was a little baby and has never even taken him on a holiday yet I've given him everything, I think that's been the problem.

I raised my daughter on my own, her dad has never been around, she's the most independent likeable young woman, it astounds me how well she has turned out, perhaps males are slightly different...?

I spoilt her as did my family but I did my best to instil her learning how to stand on her own two feet and take responsibility....it worked!

Remember you have know your son a lot longer than your OH. At 22 though I hope he understands your dilemma of being the one in the middle.

No he doesn't not at all. He just thinks we're hard on him, but I want the best for him and we like nice things and keep a tidy, clean home where we all pull out weight. He struggles with this, hence his move to his Dad's