Do you think its fair

[LoveMyGirls]

dp has an exam today so isnt going into work so he can study beforehand.
he got up at 6.30 as normal to run my bath (normally his bath which i just jump into)
then he woke me up and went back to bed but while i was in the bath the kids woke up (7&1)
he got them up until i got out the bath but didnt take them down to give them breakfast like he would on a normal day so im tyring to get dressed with dd2 crying to be fed. i say i htink its unfair that he thinks he can opt out of helping with the children in the morning like he normally does and i take them downstairs to feed them, he shouts all the obscenties (sp?) he can think of, at me whilst im coming downstairs (which he has now apologised for)

basically should he have got them bfast or am i being totally unreaosnable to expect him to help btw i didnt mind him going back to bed but i needed his help as i start work at 8am.

i don;t think asking him to sort out breakfast is too much to ask at all.

he's stressed because of his exam - leave him.

he passed, hes less stressed now obviously and we're fine of course, he's lovely really

that you get help normally in the mornings. I do it all every morning. OK I work part time but even on the days I have to work - leave house at 7.30. He never helps get them ready!

I think that it was nice of him to apologise for being rude to you. I think that he was probably stressed about the exam and in future you could perhaps discuss the getting the children ready arrangments the night before if either one of you has an exam,interview etc. again. At least then you will know what is expected of you.

Thanks for your opinions and i agree he is very good, i also agree most men wouldn't do it but our relationship is a fair one imo, my post makes me sound like a right spolit cow that expects him to do everything for me (like im a princess or something) but we both work extremely hard (it wasnt long ago i was working 6/7 days a week and even at one point did 30 days in a row) so its give and take and he usually comes home late (about 7pm) so i get the children bathed and ready for bed and do our dinner etc i dont get to sit down properly until 8pm or later sometimes if he comes home in time whe will bath baby and sit with dd1 while i feed baby.

i know how lucky i am as does he which is why we are still together 5 yrs on after alot of ups and downs and counselling to deal with our baggage. we love each other very much which is why we do things for each other (like running baths and cooking).

i still don't think that having an exam entitles him to a morning off during the week tbh it didnt start until 12pm and i left the house at 8.30am so he had plenty of time to chill, last minute look thorugh his notes, have a calming bath and a steady drive to the exam place. in the run up to his exam i was doing everything every night on my own as he had to study and he's only got a few days off and then he needs to start again for his next and final exam.

we take turns to have lie ins at weekends which i think is very fair.

"i still don't think that having an exam entitles him to a morning off during the week tbh "

I don't think he even knew he was doing it - men can only think about one thing. Have you seen that cartoon where in 12 frames it shows a man putting on a kettle (1 picture) waiting (10 pictures) providing wife with tea (1 picture). The woman on the other hand hangs out washing, feeds the dog, puts on more washing etc. etc. I think this sums it up nicely. Dh said "why is that funny I don't get it".