On the verge of splitting up

[Redhead7828]

Hi i am mum to a 11 month old boy. I have been with my partner since 2012 and moved out of rented premises to live in my partners house. I have always been conscious that we got together 6 months after my partners previous relationship of 10 years ended. My partner has told me im not the love of his life and we have other problems to the point we are at the point of deciding whether to split or try again for the sake of our baby. My problem is i am living in his house,i am jobless without savings and a baby. If we were to split im unsure what rights/benefits im entitled to. I have nowhere to go and dont want to lose my baby because of this Any advice would be greatly appreciated,thankyou

Don't try for the sake of the baby. Either the relationship is worth it or not.

Get advice. You are not in a great position, but he should pay maintenance for the child. If you have at any point contributed towards the mortgage, you could also claim for that amount.

Start getting information and make a plan before he kicks you out. In any case, if you are ok with splitting, you are in a much better position if you do decide to stay because it won't be for security but for the relationship.

I agree if it's tense its probably best for you to be apart. could you go to the council office and ask to be put on a waiting list for accommodation? they can also give you advice about claiming housing benefit. if/when you live alone you will probably be entitled to child tax credits as well as the child benefit you presumably already get. Its not a lot but it should be manageable with maintenance support. I hope it works out for you all, but don't feel trapped in an unhappy relationship without checking all the options.

As your child is under 5 you would get housing benefit incomplete support and child tax credit. You would probably get help with child care if you wanted to do some training (unless its changed) too
The hard part is finding bond and rent up front but hopefully your partner would help if you were to have an amicable split?

Contact CAB and get in to see them for some advice.
They will be able to tell you what benefits and housing you would be entitled to.
You would also get maintenance payments from him
There is a calculator HERE which should give you an idea of what he will pay.

Please don't burden your poor child with your happiness. It's very unfair.
If the relationship is dead then it's over and you need to separate and move on.
Good luck with everything.