Do emotionally abusive ex's go on to emotionally abuse their children?

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Was just discussing this matter with a friend who has left ex. Ex uses DC to control her but DC dote on him. So far they haven't complained about him.

What friend was curious about was what happens when DC get older and the ex has less of a hold on her? Would his attention switch to the children?

Have searched the net about whether emotional abusive partners go on to abuse children but couldn't find anything.

Any personal experience welcome.

YES!

but they don't have to be an ex. Mothers and fathers in the home are capable of doing it too.

Thanks joyful. Do you think this is more than likely or can people abuse partners only but treat their kids nicely?

I think if someone is abusive, it's a fundamental part of their personality.

They don't magically change into someone else for their children but it will likely manifest in different ways, if that makes sense.

my xh turned his abuse onto my dd, saying she deserved being mentally and physically abused as she reminded him of me.she came home lots of times with black eyes, hand marks on her throat, etc. she was 14 when we split up and i wasn't allowed to stop her seeing him. social worker insisted dd saw him. she's 21 now and realised how bad his behaviour is, took a while as she has sn. she would get phone calls from funeral directors about arranging my funeral, and lots more cruel stuff. she doesn't have anything to do with him if she can help it.