did I make a massive mistake

[wibbletoot28]

hi
need some advice on this as im starting to have doubts about what ive done.
I live with my bf with my 2 boys, we've been together just over a year. me an boys moved in about 2 months ago an everything was great until a friend of his who is also an ex of his asked could she stay a night or 2 because of work, I assumed it was just a once off as I knew they were friends but they didn't have much contact besides when she had a drama an needed his help so I said ok. since then she's asked to stay twice more. she is on the fone to him for at least an hour every otherday could be more as hes at work 10hrs a day, sghe is constantly texting messaging and snap chatting him. ive actually looked through his fone which is something i never thought i ewould do an found picsshe had sent him some in her underware asking if he could see àny difference after her work out. i came across one pic and i was baffaled as to what it could be till i read the text under it, it was a piece of wax with her pubes on it an said having a tidy up lol i was gobsmacked. last time she stayed she was full of sly comments and backhanded remarks it felt like she was trying to prove she knew him better than I do. anyway I confronted him about this last night and said I wanted her out of his life that she was a manipulative trouble making attention seeking tramp and I wasn't going to compete for his time with her. big argument followed after this then silent treatment until finally he agreed to tell her she couldn't stay and has to back off he also apologized for hurting my feelings. what im really worried about is he said last night that I was breaking his heart asking him to cut her out and he was going to have to break her heart, I know feel I shouldn't have said anything as hell grow to hate me for making him choose.
sorry its so long an muddled any advice or opinion greatly appreciated

You called her a manipulative girl , which she is however dont let this man go without blame too. He's equally encouraging and enjoying this attention. How can she be calling him for an hour without him accepting the call and carrying on a conversation?? It takes two. He is 37 yo, if he hasn't got his act together by this age he is a lost cause. Glad you woke up and saw what's really going on.

I do hope he didn't manage to talk you round last night and you got home.
Have a nice couple of evening with your brother.
I think he's a very good manipulator and you've now seen that.
Don't feel stupid. It's what they are good and what they do.
I hope your boys will be happy to be home as well.
Stay strong.
Let him have his 22 YO! They are welcome to each other.
Wax with pubes on!!!!!

Oh well done wibble!
You deserve so much better than 2nd best. I am pleased you have already packed your things and told your brother you are returning home.

Now don't let your now-ex-bf try to persuade you to go back. He has shown his true colours in a very short space of time. Invest your time in your toddlers and enjoy having the company of your brother.

hi all

just thought I'd give a quick update to what's been happening.

I am still gone thank god and will never be going back. found out hes cheated many many times so have contacted the doc for a full works sti test. also found out what hes really like this weekend, I was out for a friends bday an he followed me around all night so decided to head home - not a good idea to walk off home on my own but had had a few too many cocktails- I am now sat here with a black eye swollen and bruised face a cracked rib and bruising and cuts all over. have contacted guards and I am pressing charges and thankfully its all caught on cctv aswell.

I may be feeling a bit sore and my egos bruised but I am so glad I trusted my gut and got out of there before he done worse to me or godforbid my kids.

Omg wibble you poor thing! What a psycho he is! Thank God you got away. Take care of yourself

He attacked you?

yep he sure did.
Apparently I was ungrateful and I should be glad someone was willing to take me an my 2 "brats" on!!

im so glad I left when I did.

Well done you xxx

OMG what a horrible turn of events.
Very glad you are pressing charges.
I hope he gets to spend a good bit of time in prison to think about what a fucking cunt he is!
And I don't use that word lightly.
Well done for getting out.
Restraining order and get him locked up.
for you and I hope you heel very quickly!

Hope you are okay OP, you definitely made the right decision to move out, stay strong

I'm so, so sorry to hear that his emotional abuse escalated to physical abuse. Nobody deserves such horrific treatment. It has proven beyond all doubt that you were right to move out.

Look after yourself now. The cuts and bruises will heal with time, but he has scarred you mentally and that is so much harder to forget.

Omg that is awful! So glad you got out when you did tho.