i need to leave the bastard

[AdmiralCLingus]

i live in a house with dds dad even though we are separated. He owns the house with his mom.

My tax credits have been stopped because they think we're a couple and the evidence I've given them has been rejected.

He's really shown his true colours through all of this. He simply does not give a shit how this is affecting his daughter and that i have no money to feed her or clothe her.

Its having such an impact on my mental health and i just cant do it anymore.

I just need some handholding please because im so scared

I would call Women's Aid and accept any help they can give you. Has he been violent with you? Sorry you are scared.

Absolutely contact Womens Aid and Shelter and see what you can do.
Get onto CAB and get their advice as well.
Do you have family or friends who you can talk to about it all?
Is there anyone who you can go to?

Are you married? As if you are i dont know how you cant have a claim on the house anyway.

Yes you do need to leave the house: for your mental health, for your tax credits, and to give consistency and stability to your DD (living in more modest surroundings is far preferable to living with 2 warring parents under one roof).

You can contact Women's Aid for advice, Shelter if you think you need to stay in a refuge, and consult CAB and online benefits calculators to work out what your financial position will be as a single parent, so you can plan your new life.

You have all my sympathy. I am confident that you can do this, and start a happier and more stable life for you and DD.

Citizens Advice Bureau is a must for you - they will tell you who to see and what you can do about your situation. Look them up on the internet, they will hold office somewhere in your town every couple of weeks. Book an appointment today.

You will probably need to move out, but don't panic. You can do it. So many of us have and never looked back. Just get that essential advice and support from CAB. Have you got family you can move in with? I stayed in a spare bedroom at a relatives until I gathered up the first couple of months rent I needed to get my own place.

Take the first steps and the rest will slot into place. If you are married, deal with that once you have moved out e.g. getting hold of half the assets. You will need a solicitor at this stage. Concentrate on moving out first.

Good luck but stay strong - you can do it x

Hes not physically violent but I've come to realise how he behaves is emotional abuse, and looking back hes been controlling about manipulative from the very start.

We aren't married, so I know there's definitely nothing I can do about where we live. Hes offered to move back to his parents but I don't want him to have control over me anymore, and he would if I carry on renting from him