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Pleasing themselves

26 replies

lazyanna · 31/10/2006 06:28

DH seems to vanish off to the bathroom too often - I know what he is doing, and he knows 8 don't like it. Don't they grow out of it eventually?

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ratclare · 31/10/2006 06:35

define too often? i would say no they dont grow out of it ,not ever

buktus · 31/10/2006 07:01

mine doesnt do it thank god

Original poster
lazyanna · 31/10/2006 14:46

4 or 5 times a week - I have asked him not to.

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Callisto · 31/10/2006 14:53

Why don't you like it?

Iklboo · 31/10/2006 14:55

That's what he tells you buktus

IdrisTheDragon · 31/10/2006 14:56

I have no idea how often DH masturbates.

And I really don't care.

Callisto · 31/10/2006 15:04

Same here Idris. It's better than going out and shagging someone else whenever the mood takes him. Besides we all do it. Natural innit?

NotQuiteCockney · 31/10/2006 15:24

I don't know why it's anyone's business other than the person doing it, tbh. No harm done to anyone, and what's to object to?

piglit · 31/10/2006 15:44

I'm with NQC. I've never understood what the big deal is. I'm more concerned about dh's farts.

adozenroses · 31/10/2006 16:31

A man needs to masturbate so he can prolong his erection during sex - otherwise they become minute men

I don't have a problem with it - especially if I benefit

sugarfree · 31/10/2006 16:38

The only thing I can see to get cross about is the private use of a bathroom.
Why can't I have that?

NotQuiteCockney · 31/10/2006 17:09

Surely it's better in the bathroom than the living room? Or the kitchen?

julezboo · 31/10/2006 17:38

DP does it more than 4/5 times a week! And we have an active sex life, I dont care tbh, gives me a break HAHA!!!

facebovvered · 31/10/2006 17:41

Lazyanna... why don't you like it? Can't say I ever really thought about it. I'm sure he does, don't care how often, we have an active sex life though, and I would die if he ever asked me how often I did it!

ProfYaffle · 31/10/2006 17:46

DH has been known to do it 4/5 times per day! As Julz says, stops him mithering me so i really couldn't care less

buktus · 31/10/2006 19:51

ikylboo i know he doesnt

pesha · 31/10/2006 20:22

I worry more when dp isnt doing it!

NotQuiteCockney · 31/10/2006 21:10

I am now officially worried about ProfYaffle's DP, having 4/5ths of a wank every day. How on earth do you have 4/5ths of a wank?

buktus · 31/10/2006 21:12

i really wanted to ask that too

ProfYaffle · 31/10/2006 22:02

He's very talented!

BATtymumma · 31/10/2006 22:06

FFS.

if a bloke came on here and started whinging because his wife had a vibrator and although she still has sex with him as often as normal he was getting fed up as she was doing it alone as well.....i can imagine the reaction.

so long as he cleans up after himself whats the problem?

Oh and please dont kid yourself your partner doesn't do it.

Original poster
lazyanna · 31/10/2006 22:07

faceb, I just don't like it. Call me frosty or Victorian, but it's horrid

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madamez · 31/10/2006 22:42

Lazyanna: hmmm. Potentially a bigger problem here than just extra expenditure on tissues round your house. Do you find other aspects of sexuality a bit distasteful? Do you think that now you and your partner are parents you should have 'grown out of' all that - unless you want another child?
Ok, there is actually nothing wrong with such a viewpoint in itself (not liking sex is just as valid a personal choice as liking it lots and lots) but if your desires and views are very mis-matched then it could be a source of problems between you and your DP - if you have gone off sex then you kind of have to accept that if he doesn't feel the same way he has a right to at least entertain himself without condemnation.

buktus · 01/11/2006 09:42

i know my dh doesnt do it, we have a very good sex life, he never shuts that bathroom door ever and he cant actually ever get the final result if you know what i mean

acnebrideofFrankenstein · 01/11/2006 09:47

I know dh does it, so do i, but i also see why you don't like him disappearing off to the bathroom to do it. Woudl it be better/worse if he did it in front of you?

It can feel pretty excluding if you know it's happening.

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