OH MY GOD!!!!

[Flamefaced]

I have been here for a while now but for obvious reasons, you will see I have had to change my name...

Dh and I have been going through a bit of a 'stale' patch just recently, we haven't had sex in about 5 months and today he has really got on my nerves just by being here.

We're not the most talkative of people when it comes to our relationship and I know that that is mostly down to me. But I have been feeling a bit down about the lack of spark in the bedroom dept.

So whilst looking on here for inspiration, I came across a thread about porn and somebody was asking whether or not to try it and see whether it made a difference to their relationship.

So I went and had a look...

I'm not into that sort of thing at all, but was curious and thought I might be able to get a few tips on technique (missionary is about the best it gets with us).

DH has been asleep for ages, but has woken up and caught me looking at it .

I am so embarrased and I am dreading him asking me about it tomorrow. He asked what I was doing and I muttered some crap excuse about surfing the net, but although he didn't say anything, I'm pretty sure he saw it.

Believe me, I had all the right intentions, but I doubt that he will see it like that. I'm so nervous about what he is going to say in the morning and tbh I'd rather not be here. I'm going to explain my reasons for looking and hope that he doesn't think I am a pervert or something.

I am crying now because it looks really bad, but there was a method in my madness. I thought if it could make a difference to others then it might help me but I reckon I've probably done more harm than good

Poor you. Late night surfing should be secret! However,maybe its done you a favour - perhaps this is your opportunity to now talk to eachother about your relationship frankly and openly.

woah, you were looking at porn ,unless it involved kids or animals then so what ,why would you be nervous of what your husband is going to say ,be honest say you were looking for inspiration , i doubt he could be cross or disgusted ,more like excited .

Tell him you were doing some research. DOn't upset yourself about it. Maybe you and dh should sit down and talk about other things in your marriage rather that the fact he could you looking at porn. Don't know if you could joke that you need to get you kick somehow!

Honesty is the best policy, tell him why you were looking at it. Even suggest watching it together

Dont be upset! You havent done anything wrong (unless like ratclare said....)

Speak to him tomorrow if he doesnt bring the subject up himself...

Bear in mind that the guy might be panicking that you were trying to catch his porn-viewing habits! Lots of people (this isn't just a men v women thing) who like porn would love a partner who is interested in looking at it too: lots of couples enjoy looking at naughty DVDs etc together as a shared turn-on.
There's nothing wrong with looking at porn, so good luck with future fun