"Do you really love me?" "I think I do..."

[TwiceLittleDragon]

DH and I just had a short conversation about him pulling his weight more now that I'm just about to go back to work after 11 months of maternity leave. He didn't seem particularly enthusiastic about giving me a lie-in once or twice a week so I asked him if he really loves me. (Because surely if you really love someone, you'd give them the rest they need/deserve.) He said "I think so..." in a really noncommittal voice.

This is shit isn't it? I mean, it's late at night for us and we're both tired, silly things get said under those circumstances, but still... I don't know how to feel now.

There are some other silly issues with our relationship but not going into it right now as too tired. I just feel really sad inside.

LTB you deserve more.

just kidding
love the comment above if you have kids under 2 comments like that don't count.

it's not a big deal, really.

Hmm. 'Do you really love me?' is a whiny, manipulative sort of question. However, the fact that this man seems to be reserving any kindness or empathy he has for people other than you is a bit of a problem. Does he pull his weight at all domestically? If not, the question of whether or not he loves you is irrelevant. The relevant question is: why put up with a man who is just extra domestic work and an expectation that you will service his cock.

His way of expressing love is sex??? So his way of expressing love for you is by doing something he wants that you are not currently in the mood for. I agree that your 'do you love me?' Question is whiney and manipulative. It sounds like your husband is selfish though and takes you for granted.

SGB, spot on; sex is not showing love here, it is just more taking from him.

I'm starting to feel really really low now. It's going on for too long, this resentment, it's not just a one off argument like it usually is.

I posted another thread here asking for advice on where to go to take a break from DH, it's under a different username as I had trouble using this one on my phone, it wouldn't allow me to select this one for some reason. On that thread I've just made a post explaining some of our other issues.

I guess it's not big stuff in the grand scheme of things but for me it feels like I'm living with a horrible nasty version of the nice bloke he was when we first met, and that's such a depressing thing.

I'm worried all these fights will have a bad effect on our lovely happy smiley baby as he sees us arguing more and more

Unfortunately, abusive men often show their true colours when the first baby arrives, and this man is abusive.
He doesn't consider you human, that's the bottom line. You are something between a pet and a domestic appliance, and your needs are simply unimportatnt, as far as he's concerned. That's why he's taking all the leisure time, all the lie-ins, all the spare time to do his voluntary work/hobby, because he considers that he is the person in the household and you and the baby are more like props or objects he can ignore when he's got something more interesting to do.
Unfortunately, it doesn't get better with a man like this. He is not actually capable of percieving you as a person, as someone with whom he needs to share chores, someone he needs to be kind to. You're a 'woman' and therefore you exist for his benefit.