DH and I got married just over a year ago having been together for 9 years. We've always had (ahem) an adventurous, exciting and fairly regular sex life. In the last year, and I don't think in any way related to the wedding or marriage itself, we have had quite a few ups and downs.
I was hospitalised with a life threatening illness which resulted in me being put on a diet which caused a lot of weight gain, He's been quite depressed with work issues and issues with his DD. We've both changed jobs and work very long hours. And I've had incredibly erratic/ prolonged periods which lasted sometimes for a two weeks at a time, due to the illness. All in all... none of this has been conducive to either of us feeling particularly sexy.
We've both been feeling down about it but today he has raised it.. on text, which although not ideal I am pleased about and one of us had to say something. We've gone from sex maybe five times a week, to once every two weeks, sometimes less. It's always in bed, lights out, routine.. not great at all for either of us.
I think that the lack of sex has made us less tactile with each other in general, and in turn the lack of normal physical contact has made sex less on our minds. A vicious circle. As I think most women can also relate to.. if I've not been touched all day I object to being fondled as an immediate precursor to sex.
I would love to get the spark back but my weight gain is making it really hard. I'm sure he still fancies me... but I have no body confidence.
How has anyone else managed to keep things alive??