DP's health

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I am worried about my DP's health. I've noticed some symptoms that I think he needs to get checked out urgently (poss cancer?). I've told him about my worries and he says he understands and will do it but is not showing any urgency. He's not registered with a GP so needs to do that first but again doesn't seem to be getting round to it. I've told him I won't let it drop; he tells me not to keep going on. I don't want to have an argument about it but what can I do? I'm waking up at night worrying. He's a very loving, kind man who is normally very rational, meanwhile I'm sick with worry over this. Any thoughts anyone?

I'd opt for the argument ! Can you go to your GP and register him yourself ? Once done, make the appointment for him. What will you feel worse about, badgering him into something and him having a go at you, or finding out in a few weeks/months that he has a serious condition ?

Many years ago my ex wasn't registered with a GP and became very unwell. I took him to my GP, who kindly registered him there and then. He had advanced shingles. She tore a strip off him for not doing anything about it earlier, and he took months to recover.

I'm not sure if I can register on his behalf at the GP's. I don't want to have an argument but I feel that will happen if he doesn't do something!

You say you've noticed symptoms, but has he discussed any with you atall ?

What are the symptoms OP?

No you won't be able to register on his behalf as he needs to sign the form. However you could go and pick up the form and fill it out as much as you can and then literally stick it in his face and say he needs to do the rest right now, maybe?

Men can be so stubborn about this kind of stuff. Like they think going to docs isn't "manly". Or that if they ignore it, it will go away

Or put him in the car and take him to a walk-in surgery or A&E.

Better a loving argument than something much, much worse.

They are symptoms in his mouth that I think need checking (not registered with a dentist either!). I think maybe a loving argument is what is called for because I'm worrying and action needs to happen. To be honest, we don't argue much so if I get cross perhaps he'll understand the depth of my concern. I'm not sure it's appropriate to take him to A&E because they'll probably say see your GP (which he doesn't have).

No probably not A&E but do you have a walk-in centre nearby?

Also have you tried using the 111 online symptom checker ?