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I'm meeting a girl from a dating site on Friday!

14 replies

Arsenal123 · 23/03/2015 19:47

Urm ... I have a date with a girl I've met on Tinder this Friday and I am completely terrified. I haven't dated in 3 years and she is absolutely gorgeous.

I am nervous in case she doesn't like me despite us getting on well when texting and becoming Facebook friends.

My main concern is that she won't find me attractive as I tend to detag all of the horrendous pictures of myself on Facebook. Despite there only being a four year age gap I look old for my age and she looks younger. She's 23 - I'm 27.

It's so weird because we have lots of friends in common and live in a small town but we have never met.

I will update you guys on the proceedings over the weekend, but do you have any advice before I go into this?

Dress code? Approach?

OP posts:
swooosh · 23/03/2015 19:49

Good luck! Smile where are you going to meet?

mojitoplease · 23/03/2015 20:11

Hi OP,

I take it this isn't your first date with a girl?.. I only ask because I'm wondering if your nerves are to do with the fact you haven't dated in 3 years, or the fact you haven't dated women before.

I met my gf (first ever, after years of denying my sexuality) online, but not really a dating site, more of an advice forum. Anyway, I was absolutely terrified and I had all those worries you had. I'm 3 years older than her and it really bothered me initially.

Luckily, it worked out Smile I hope it does for you too.

Dress code? Well, just wear what you're comfortable in? Do you have a specific style? As for the approach, go with the flow. Accept you'll be nervous, but if you get on well, those nerves will soon disappear and you'll then just be excited.

DextersMistress · 23/03/2015 20:13

Sorry mojito but how do you know op is female?

CatthiefKeith · 23/03/2015 20:19

I am fairly sure op is male?

mojitoplease · 23/03/2015 20:20

Well I was assuming with it being mumsnet. I'm sure I'll be corrected if that's not the case.

mojitoplease · 23/03/2015 20:22

Tbh, does it really matter? My main advice would still stand.

DextersMistress · 23/03/2015 20:23

Wasn't being snippy, just curious! Either way, mojito your advice is great Smile
Good luck with your date op, I'm sure it'll be great.

ImperialBlether · 23/03/2015 20:24

I thought Arsenal was a woman in her 40s!

mojitoplease · 23/03/2015 20:28

Dex, ah ok. I thought I was going to be accused of generlising and making assumptions.

CatthiefKeith · 23/03/2015 20:29

I guess it's irrelevant anyway. Good luck op, hope it is the start of something great. Smile

DextersMistress · 23/03/2015 20:33

Oh goodness no Grin
I read the op thinking it was a man posting. Then read your reply and wondered if I'd missed a detail or if you knew the poster. 'Twas simple curiosity Smile

HairyHandedFucker · 23/03/2015 20:35

OP is a guy.

OP, she will like you if she likes you, end of. And vice versa! Maybe she only puts the best photos of herself up on Fb too! If there is spark/chemistry, the time is right, then you just see how it goes. No pressure. You are both young. Just be yourself.

Original poster
Arsenal123 · 23/03/2015 22:35

Thank you :-)

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jesy · 24/03/2015 09:17

Dress code wise I'd say nice shirt ,good fitting jeans (I'm presuming your male)

But if your not a nice spring dress ,

And either case do nails trim them for a man paint then if a girl an ex of my mine said on our first date it was obvious I'd made effort as my nails looked nice x

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