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How to move on from break up?

7 replies

Fairy360 · 22/03/2015 20:43

Right now, I feel broken. Any tips for how to get over somebody you thought was your soulmate? Are there any quick fixes?

Thanks in advance.

OP posts:
elsabelle · 22/03/2015 20:50

Oh, sending Flowers for you OP.

My heart was totally shattered by the person i thought was my soulmate 8 months ago and i'm still broken :-(

Not sure i can give the best advice, but i would suggest let it out, and lean on friends. Dont let anyone tell you to be strong and get over it and all that shit. It hurts. Like hell. You'll get there, but it takes time.

Hugs x

alwayslookingforsomething · 22/03/2015 20:55

I haven't found any quick fixes :(

Keeping busy is an important one. I found it much harder at the quiet times.

Try not to put any time limit on it, just see how you feel day to day, some days won't be so good but then on other days it will start to feel a bit better

Hope you feel better soon

Ouchbloodyouch · 22/03/2015 21:29

No quick fixes Sad sadly. I posted here a million times which saved my sanity. When did this happen?

elsabelle · 22/03/2015 21:57

Ouch i remember your posts, helped me a lot :) Glad to hear youre doing better. How is your dating going?

Ouchbloodyouch · 22/03/2015 22:34

Hi. The dating is good Wink to be fair even though I have been through it all before I never thought I would get over my last break up. Until I did.
It took four months to feel over the worst but up until the day before the date I was still fixated with my ex Blush. I think I had become so used to my thought pattern it was the norm for me to think about my ex obsessively if that makes sense!
What helped... exercise. Lots of walking. Proper hiking. It nearly killed me but I felt positive for doing so. Reconnecting with friends. Actually pinning them down for meet ups (I think we are all guilty of 'oh we must catch up' and never doing so)
Netflix. The Good Wife took care of dull January!
Mumsnet of course helped enormously!
I'm sorry you feel crap op. This too shall pass. But not tomorrow. Or next week
The thing that surprised me the most was how quickly the gut wrenching despair went. About a fortnight. The grey enveloping sadness I thought was here for ever..
but it wasn't and it won't be for you OP either

Wotsitsareafterme · 22/03/2015 22:45

Me too and it's 9 months Hmm my only advice is work on yourself, cut yourself some slack and keep talking x

Figwin · 22/03/2015 23:45

No cure but I always found a trip to the hair dressers a bit of a boost to the old confidence. New cut/colour, you're not the same as you were etc. might just be me though x

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