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How do I deal with this??

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jl1983 · 22/03/2015 19:06

As you guys know from my previous thread how I was messed around by this guy who had a gf etc. Well she kicked him out and now he's living with his gf who is married with a kid :( anyway he told me he hasn't done anything and is happy which is wrong in itself. Anyway yesterday was told he turned up with his piece to make a point. I missed it thanks god but the ex gf that kicked him out said she was v embarrassed etc. The new gf doesn't like me as she knows I talk to her husband so think she is trying to do the same. How do I deal with people like this :((((

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jl1983 · 23/03/2015 22:00

Well I'm sorry but feel I'm being laughed at by him and her to say the least

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jl1983 · 23/03/2015 22:03

I know I have to avoid him just don't like having nose rubbed in by him and his bit who have fecked everyone over

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AnyFucker · 23/03/2015 22:05

You will be being "laughed at" by everyone if you don't desist hanging on like a limpet to this fucked up situation

candyce83 · 23/03/2015 22:06

While its horrible, thats not something you can do anything about. And its not anything someone on mumsnet can do anything about either. If they're trying to make your life a misery what does that say about them? You need to take a step back on this situation and do not engage them. You're playing right into their hands by giving them a reaction.

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jl1983 · 23/03/2015 22:10

Yep you're right they're both out to make a point but don't seem to care hurt they've caused like the husband ex gf,me. Just not the strongest at mo and find facing them is tough especially when they seem to b making a poiny

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Cabrinha · 23/03/2015 23:08

Oh grow up.
He has dumped you and his ex girlfriend.
He can do what he likes.
What's with all this "bit" "piece" nonsense?
Stop slagging off his new girlfriend just because she isn't you.

And you know what?
You said you had sex with him when he was with the other girlfriend.

So in what way are you better than him or the current girlfriend?

You should be embarrassed by yourself.

Leave him to it.
And take a good long look at your own behaviour whilst you're at it.

Isetan · 24/03/2015 06:23

So one OW is calling out another Blush.

You don't occupy any moral high ground here, you're just upset he choose her over you and the embarrassment you feel, is knowing this.

This guy has done you a massive favour, be very thankful. Focus on finding out why you have and continue to make, poor choices.

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jl1983 · 24/03/2015 10:10

I know he has done me a favour he only lied to me all the time anyway. Just dony like being laughed even if he a compulsive liar/alcoholic

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Cabrinha · 24/03/2015 15:52

Yes, but why did you have sex with him when he had a girlfriend?

ptumbi · 24/03/2015 16:02

WHat cabrinha said^^

Why is it any of your business what they are doing? What they are saying? What;s it got to do with you?

Ok they might be laughing at you - people might be laughing at me too. So???

And stop with the 'she got her claws into him' - he's not a soft toy to be grabbed and passed around. What he does is up to HIM not you or anyone else.

MrNoseybonk · 24/03/2015 16:11

Wow, this man must be amazing if he has three women making fools of themselves to have his favour!
What's his secret? He must be a real charmer.

deste · 24/03/2015 20:40

He was an alcoholic, they tell lies and anyway what does it matter. You sound very young. You need to raise your expectations about men and what you want and what you will accept. Put this down to experience and move on.

TheNewSchmoo · 24/03/2015 21:11

This is a advice thread. My advice? Grow up.

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jl1983 · 25/03/2015 14:34

I props do need to grow up but didn't deserve him certainly don't need to b seeing his bit who is just as bad as him

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Cabrinha · 25/03/2015 15:12

Will you PLEASE stop with all this "his bit" nonsense?
Why is it helpful to insult her when the problem is your bad choices? If you slept with my husband the way you did with him, I'd have worse words for you.

Why are you so fixated on them? You got dumped, but by a loser.

MOVE ON!!!

Theoldcauliflower · 25/03/2015 15:14

Oh lord!! Just tell him to get lost pleasssssse!!!!

ptumbi · 25/03/2015 15:17

'His bit'? Weren't you his 'bit' for a while?

And anyway - WHO CARES? If you don't 'need to be seeing' her, find something else to do. You are the one feeding this.

deste · 27/03/2015 12:57

Tell you what, get them on to Jeremy Kyle because that's what this sounds like.

magoria · 27/03/2015 13:06

You were his bit. You are just as bad as his current bit.

Stop trying to take the moral high ground you have no right to move on and have some dignity.

You sound like a sore lower because as soon as he was free he went elsewhere while you were offering it on a plate.

magoria · 27/03/2015 13:07

Lower = loser flaming auto correct

Lemonylemon · 27/03/2015 13:08

OP: Try to walk away with your head held high. You're on a hiding to nothing. So what if they're trying to make a point? If you take no notice, they can't make that point. Leave it. It's over. It's done. Just leave it.

RubbishMantra · 27/03/2015 13:21

I would ignore them. Why bother spending precious time and energy on people that aren't arsed about you?

If that's not an option, give old Kyle a ring. Sounds perfect for him.

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