When to tell Dd about half siblings

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My dd's biological father hasn't seen her since she was 3 months old.

She was his first child, he went on to have at least 3 more children with at least 2 different women. The eldest of the 3 that I know about will be about 13 now. Dd will be 16 next month.

She doesn't know.

Do I tell her? When? How?

I have tried to track one of the other women down - the one who has 2 daughters with him that I met on e - but no luck.

Is there any point in giving her this information when that's all I can do? I can't put her in touch with them or him. It seems cruel.

But I don't want her to find out from someone else.

It's been on my mind a lot recently, I think as she's coming up 16.

Any advice or experiences gratefully received.

Honestly? About 13 years ago.

But as you didn't, I would say as soon as possible after GCSEs
Don't tell her now it could wobble her massively just before her exams, which isn't fair on her. (Assuming she is doing GCSEs given her age).

You must tell her.

"DD I need to tell you more about your Dad. After he left us he went on to have 3 more children. Although I know we don't see Dad I think you have a right to know this information."

Then let her ask questions. If she rants at you for not telling her earlier then apologise, and say you didn't because you didn't see the benefit to her, but you are sorry. Then answer any questions as honestly as you can. She can then process info, and decide whether she wants you to continue to try to track them down, if possible.

My view comes from being an adopter. We are taught to drip feed info from when they are very small.