This is the final straw, no more 'warning lights'. Hugely pissed off.

[Northernlurker]

I love my car, I really do. I only learnt to drive it 4 years ago so there's still plenty of spark between us but I just can't go on like this.
Last Friday night the bastard starting rattling, on the way to the garage on Saturday morning something dropped off!
£262 later I have it back (apparently it was a coil spring and it's not it's fault, it's feeling it's age blah blah)
Now today the ABS light has come on AGAIN. This has been a constant feature of our relationship. A few years ago, the week we moved house it's incessant need for attention knackered the whole ABS thing costing nearly £1000. Few years later it did it again but VW had got wise to this sort of manipulation by then and had a much cheaper fix. Still painful though. Now it's sensors have started going. Two wheels done so far, now obviously another. Unless it's really going for it the provocative sod and it's the pump again.
I just can't take anymore. I know it will cost a lot to split but I'm going to have to LTB aren't I?
Tell my wise mumsnetters what should I move on to?

(I am aware this is a serious section but honestly no row with dh could make me feel as frustrated and angry as I do right now! It really is a relationship issue)

I'd put the brakes on if I were you.

You've obviously invested a lot in this relationship. Consider that before you drive him off with your ultimatums.

Just make sure you get the contents of the glove box any split. Sometimes they hide money in there.

Bastard thing passed it's MOT to spite me - failing would have allowed me an 'out' clause you see.

Do you think I'm clutching at straws?

it's just exhausting

I would trade him in for a younger model.

I keep pointing out all the other lovely models too mine and tell him he will be upgraded if he costs me more money, so far it's working :),but then his mot is due next month.........

gah i wanted sooo much to get in with ltb

A spa day might work

I feel your pain. I'm seeing amber lights too. Something to do with emissions apparently. I slave away to put top quality fuel in her (I seem to be in a same sex relationship with my vehicle) and she responds by getting digestive issues.

Manipulative or just a lack of appreciation?

Hmmm...this could backfire (haha, hey I am trying)

It's the end of the road I'm afraid

I'm definitely going younger but you know what they say about women always gravitating towards the same model..........I find it hard to think about anything other than a Touran.

Do the same as I used to threaten (jokingly) with my late-hubby: "I'll trade you in for 2 younger versions - with go-faster stripes!

You clearly have given enough chances for him to improve performance, perhaps that final threat will make him spring into action. On the otherhand, he might just turnover again and ignore your feelings.

OP, I think the question is why you're spending so much time and energy fixing a braking system instead of pimping your ride with a bigger exhaust and tinted windows. Clearly, at some deep level you want this relationship to come to a halt.

Certainly need to turbo charge the situation. I need to think what would oil the wheels.

If you think he's being difficult, you wouldn't know where to start with a Land Rover's "tantrums"

I've heard that about Land Rovers. They never know when to stop (or start) do they?