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This is toxic isn't it?

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FriendofBill · 20/03/2015 21:46

Spoke to my mother this eve.
Just finished a lovely job with well known organization she deals with too.
After my gushing, she began to talk about her experiences of them, but as if it was entirely unrelated to what I had just said- 'you know what such and such are like, f'ing lazy bastards') she was agitated, swearing, as if it was my fault that this organization have made mistakes.
I said 'Ma, I have just spoken about these and now you are shouting as if I am to blame' she said, 'no, I'm not shouting, this is shouting' and took a deep breath and screamed my name at the top of her voice.

I hung up and sent her a text saying it is unacceptable.

Feel awful.

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PoppyField · 20/03/2015 21:54

Sounds like you did just the right thing. Ugh. Sorry you're going through this. She has no right to do that. Quite unhinged, isn't she?

TheCowThatLaughs · 20/03/2015 22:00

Was she drunk?!

FriendofBill · 20/03/2015 22:04

I wish she was drunk.
She has done it before, referring to a population where DS father was born, as if we have no relation to them.

This is the first time I have attempted a boundary.
I'm 39!

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FriendofBill · 20/03/2015 22:05

Referring to a population, DS father comes from that country.
If that makes sense?
However I dress it, prejudiced basically.

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TheCowThatLaughs · 20/03/2015 22:08

It sounds like you dealt with it well. She could have deafened you Shock

cleanmyhouse · 20/03/2015 22:35

Nope. Not acceptable. She sounds like very hard work.

MelonBallersAreStrange · 20/03/2015 23:11

Good on you for hanging up. That was clearly the right thing to do.

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