How to I fix my relationship?

[BeansInBoots]

Been with dp for 4 years, have two dc 2.3 and 7mo.
Ds has been pretty unwell in and out of hospital although now seems to be better, hopefully for good.
This has put a massive strain on our relationship and me and dp are just really unconnected and struggling.
We are arguing a lot and I hate it.

I have no idea how to fix it though!
The ILs are having the children on Sunday so we can have a day to ourselves, but we don't really know what to do with ourselves :/

Go and do something that will make you both laugh. What about playing a game such as badminton, tennis, or table tennis. Going Go kart racing, or visit a stately home nearby or organise a cookery lesson together.

You are then not speaking directly to each other but are having fun, which could lead to a relaxed atmosphere.

You then may be able to look at each other in a new light. You once loved this man a lot, you once fancied him a lot. He is the same man. Imagine he wasn't there? how would that make you feel?

My friend's husband died suddenly recently, and she always used to say to me that she loved him, but wasn't in love with him. Now she says how much she loved him and wishes he was back so that she could shower him with love and attention. Too bloody late!

Marriages need feeding with kindness and consideration. You can choose to snipe, stop choosing that path.