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I can't be alone

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 20/03/2015 00:00

Just got home from a late shift, DH is away on an overnight course, and I'm just sobbing at the bottom of the stairs.

I've had two miscarriages in three months and I can't cope. I pretend I'm ok but I'm not and no one understands. I'm never going to be a mum and I can't take it.

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iloverunning36 · 20/03/2015 00:07

Flowers so sorry for your loss. Please don't give up.

kissmethere · 20/03/2015 00:09

Really sorry to hear that I hope maybe you can find a bit of company here. Why do you feel no one understands? Are you holding it all in? Have you had any support?
Can you have a tea, get comfortable and try to sleep? I'm sure if you get things out you'll feel people can relate to what you're going through.
Big hugs.

Original poster
Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 20/03/2015 00:09

I'm just broken. I can't see the point of my life anymore

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iloverunning36 · 20/03/2015 00:11

Do you have other kids? There is always a point and always hope Flowers

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 20/03/2015 00:11

I have no other kids

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SelfLoathing · 20/03/2015 00:11

It's normal to grieve. Crying is normal. Don't beat yourself up about it.
Things always feel worse at night - particularly if you are alone.

Pretending to be fine if you really are not probably isn't healthy. Maybe think about having some counselling or grief support.

SelfLoathing · 20/03/2015 00:13

I'm just broken. I can't see the point of my life anymore

That sounds like you are suffering from clinical depression. I would definitely make an appointment to see your dr to discuss how you are feeling.

kissmethere · 20/03/2015 00:13

Your heart is broken too and you have too. Please allow yourself time to grieve.

kissmethere · 20/03/2015 00:14

Sorry typos

CunningCat · 20/03/2015 00:26

Snoopy it is OK to grieve for your miscarriages. I have had one too. Lots of women I know have. The problem is when you see things on TV it is almost like you only see success stories. That is not the case for many women. Please don't loose hope. You are missing your dp and feel alone. You will be OK. What age are you?

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 20/03/2015 00:59

I'm 29

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CunningCat · 20/03/2015 01:18

I don't want to patronise you but you are still young.
The point is very few people discuss miscarriage or still births, but they happen every day, sadly. It is a fact. Please be kind to yourself. You have had two miscarriages in quick succession. No wonder you feel the way you do. Have you talked about how you feel to any one in RL?

derxa · 20/03/2015 13:16

Have you been to see your GP?

justjuanmorebeer · 20/03/2015 14:09

I'm so sorry to hear this. Is there anyone that can be with you a friend/family?

kissmethere · 20/03/2015 21:30

Hi how are you feeling that s evening? I hope you're with some company or doing something for you tonight.
I wanted to add I had had 2 miscarriages at your age and now have my own dcs. Please speak to your gp as you can be referred to private clinics, particularly one I was referred to in St Johns Wood, who can help you . On NHS . They can be amazing and very caring.
I just want go I give you some optimism and please don't give up on everything.

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