Desperate for help...Feel pushed in a corner, terrified

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Please help me... I'm separated and have a DC. I've posted before. DH has been seeing DC with me. Otherwise does not really ask about DC. Now DH is saying that I've denied access and has contacted me really sounding like the victim. The issue is that DH wants time alone and is also saying that I am stopping DH family from seeing DC. There are so many manipulations and lies. I do not know what to do. In the past, I organised time alone but it was not satisfactory to him. He has also gone AWOL previously but has manipulated this too. DH is threatening me with the law; he sounds like I do things his way or else. I'm beside myself. DC is just a mite.

Calm calm calm, nothing's going to happen in a hurry. He is trying to scare you. Can you write a list of what has actually happened - what you've offered him, what his response has been, what he's refused to do? If you can remember specific dates and times that's fine, if not just write down what you can remember.

What is he actually threatening to do? What does 'the law' mean? Do you already have an agreement on what contact will be? Do you have a solicitor? Are you divorcing?

Legal advice pronto - either through calling round for a free session, getting a CAB appointment or even contacting Women's Aid.. you should not be frightened - knowledge is power & will help calm you!

Please contact Womens Aid for help and advice on this.
If you can document (as PP has said) everything to date that would be good.
Start keeping a diary of everything that happens with regards to kids and harassment.
If the harassment is really scaring you then you can always contact police on 101 and get some advice from them.
But please don't panic.
I assume he was abusive towards you?
Get it all documented with Womens Aid.
Then as another PP has stated, contact Citizens Advice for some help with legalities of it all.
There is help out there. Don't be rail roaded by this manipulator.

No solicitor- any suggestions. A list is a great idea. Threatening with courts to decide. We were seeing each other together as DC so little. Now DH wanted DC alone. And really pushing for this. Despite having gone AWOL and not really showing interest. Has totally turned the tables round on me saying that I have denied everything. I'm worried about her going off to an environment which is not so loving. DH messages are all about himself and his family not DC interest. I offered contact alone whilst I would be nearby but this was met with offence. DH wants everything his way.
What do Women's aid do?

Hi op, I will just add to the advise already given here, make sure that all communication between you and him is done via email, so not face to face/phone etc as emails can be used as a legal document and are invaluable tools to show how the land lies should things ever go to court.

I would in your shoes make sure that a paper trail is left and that you contact your gp and log your emotional state of mind, get legal help, phone womans aid (as they have great support and clout should you need to prove any abuse (for legal aid purposes). Also if you are ever worried about your safety and that of your child go straight to the police, just having a police ref no can help with court process.

Get as much rl support as poss, joining sure start childrens centres near to you will help you get support that you need. Their mum and tots groups are excellent.

I am so sorry that you are in this situation, .