Travel incompatibility

[LittleMissRayofHope]

What do you do when one person wants to travel and visit places and the other isn't interested?

As in if You have an interest in city breaks and seeing places such as France, Amsterdam, Belgium etc.
but your DP isn't really interested?
You don't have any one else you can travel with. And don't particularly want to go on your own....
How do you resolve this?

Compromise?

DP and I book short weekends abroad for each other for Christmas and birthday presents, he books and picks where he wants to go and I book and pick where I want to go. Same with our main holiday each year, last year DP wanted to go to Lanzarote as it's the only Canary Island he hadn't been to. I didn't fancy it but went along knowing that it's my choice this year.

If he/she isn't willing to compromise on this then I'd be taking a look at the relationship.

Like Fudge said, you compromise. My DP loves city breaks, I can't understand why someone living in London would want a holiday in another city. I can't see the appeal of more crowds and buildings and just want to be i n the middle of nature. So we do both. For example, we went to Portugal last year - i got sunshine, nature and quiet time and he got Lisbon. This year we're going on a weekend city break for Easter but we're also gonna go hiking for a couple of days later on. I don't think 2 adults are always going to want to do the same thing.

Yes, you have to compromise. And I'd do this by alternating your choice of holiday with his; and both of you making a real effort to find things you like in the other's choice' plus doing it with genuine goodwill as it makes someone who matters happy.

And over time, you may find destinations that you both like (perhaps ones that right now one of you would never expect to enjoy).

You'd both have to be open minded though. My exH always acted as though he wanted to compromise and would go along with my choice of outing/restaurant weekend away - but then spend the whole time complaining and on return advise everyone not to go there as he had such an awful time/meal etc......in the end of course I stopped suggesting anything cos he took all the enjoyment out of it!!!

Wow, I'm surprised that people don't like city breaks.

You can go on your city breaks with 'just you' - travel company with no single supplements. You'll be in a group of people travelling alone (not all are 'singles', some have a non travelling partner) so you won't feel like you're on your own. Then you can go on the peaceful holidays with your H. Sorted!

Compromise on alternating trips - as long as the person not keen isn't going to mope about being miserable.

Otherwise, separate holidays. If you don't want to go on your own, go on a group holiday/singles group. They aren't all 18-30 hook up type. Most are based around some sort of activity/interest/theme. I went on one a couple of years ago and it was a great little group of 8 of us, mix of men and women, ages 40s and 50s. We spent some time together and some time doing our own things.

We compromise. Most of our money is spent on going back to DH country, and the family all live in a city. So we have done other things, too, like we spent a few days mid-holiday where he drove us to the beach and we stayed there before returning to the city, and we had a short break in Spain on the beach. It's all about mix and match with us :)