can it work if one person is much more into the relationship?

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STBX moved out in Sept after a 13 year relationship. I had a tough time dealing with it, but since some counselling and meds I've felt a lot more like myself.

I was recently asked out by someone I've known in passing for a couple of years and initially I said no, but then he asked again so we went out on Sunday afternoon.

We had a lovely time and he was working a split shift, but asked to see me again after work. I agreed and he came to mine for something to eat and a chat.

But towards the end of the night, he got a bit intense - even said that he loves me and when I told him it was too soon to even think that he cried and begged me not to break his heart.

I made him leave but he's been texting me since (a lot).

The thing is - I do like him, enjoy his company and find him engaging. But, no where near as much as he likes me. I'm not daft - I know he doesn't love me, but he's just too much.

I'm not looking to jump into a big serious relationship. I had imagined seeing each other a couple of times a week maybe, just having some fun and seeing where things lead to.

Could it work if we want such different things or should I just run?

Sorry, didn't finish post - crap phone.

The only thing that stopped him was the threat of going to the police. Best to get out now!

(The second moral of my experience is NEVER get back with an ex, they were an ex for a reason!)

I've blocked him now - I turned on my phone and there were a few messages, but I didn't read them and just deleted the thread.

SilverFish - your experience sounds scarey too! I think I'm just going to stay at home with the cat forever. She's a bit of a moan but at least I can physically put her out of the room when I've had enough.

I feel a bit better now that my phone is on and I know can't't be disturbing me. God, things were much easier when I was last dating in the dark ages

Well done you! Don't be tempted to answer his text or calls - it'll just encourage him, no matter what your saying! Goodluck.

Don't be put off dating all together. Be proud of yourself for being smart and tough and spotting striaghtaway that this man is a loser and dumping him immediately. You've got good knob radar, and now it's even more finely tuned.

he tried to give me a love bite on my neck and when I pulled him off my neck, just aid that he wanted to 'mark me' so people would know that I was his.

Oh. My. GOSH! That's terrifying.

Dear dear me. 12yo's do this as a kind of right of passage, but adults? That's just a major red flag.

Phew, you're well out of it. I'd be tempted to record this with the police iiwy. I'm serious, I don't like the sound of him at all.

I mean tell them the whole story, not just the lovebite.