my husband is having a psychotic episode

[acnebrideofFrankenstein]

Which at least explains all the behaviour I was struggling with so much.

Some of it quite funny tbh - he's got rid of our shower curtain and the bathmats. Why? 'Oh, I think we've had enough of the bathmats, don't you?' Couldn't think of an answer to that one.

Please send him a friendly thought or prayer, if you do that sort of thing. He's at his parents at the moment - just drove there in the middle of the night.

Just saw your post, how stressful and difficult for you all at the moment. Have tried to read all posts but knowing mean missed some vital bits out.

Are they going ot review his meds if the side effects are too much to live with?

Have you had a 'carers assessment'? You should get some extra support there. How old are kids as if a bit older they could get a carers worker too who will take them out and give them someone to vent too.

Really hope things stabliise soon, thinking of you x

Just checking in to see how you are acnebride. I hope things are peaceful in your house tonight.

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I am feeling great respect for the fact that you are trying to be supportive of his bid to be medication free. Can't imagine what it must feel like to live with this uncertainty and unpredictability on a daily basis. Conversely, you sound like a very loving couple. I hope the strength of your relationship can help you pull through this.

thanks for all your posts.

i'm all right really - we're both all right.
The crisis team are visiting every day which is absolutely brilliant, but they are expecting to discharge dh on Monday as he is fine. At the moment.

I am going to have to pursue benefits more actively - dh is supposed to be doing it but we're not getting anything, even Incapacity Benefit which apparently we've been awarded. We're v lucky in our relatives but even so things are a tad tight. Mashed potato surprise anyone?

He's sorting the entire house out (cue me rescuing lots of ds's toys from the bin) which is quite good, although I wish it involved a bit of hoovering and laundry. He's rearranged our sitting room shelves literally 8 times in a month. They look fantastic but the floor is filthy. What can you do.

This is my support at the moment. Believe me it helps. I am going to ring carer support today.

Did you ring carer support?

hoping you are both coping x

nooo i didn't ring carer support. aargh!

gonna do it 9.30

dh has finally given me all the papers relating to benefits as he is refusing to do any more of it. we now have about 10 working hours to get everything in, which isn't going to happen. i spent a large chunk of yesterday dealing with it, along with working, ds-caring, shopping, cooking and - well, now that dh is off medication his libido is back with a bang, so.... He's also rearranged the shelves again.

Not fair actually, he did do a lot of sorting out yesterday. and I'm not objecting to the libido thing, it's more fun than sitting in the hospital or the benefit office.

financially he's chilled because our relatives are helping, but reacts really badly to any hint of control from said relatives. they are SAINTS. religion is a comfort to me, but isn't it funny that the loveliest, most selfless and helpful people i know are also the strongest atheists - my mum and dh's dad.

ok 20 minutes work now!

Regarding benefits, did you know that your dh might be entitled to Disability Living Allowance? We were unfortunately not able to claim any other benefits as my dh is self-employed and had paid no NI contributions (we were also helped greatly by family), however a bipolar friend who gets DLA helped us filling in the forms and we managed to get it. It doesn't mean he can't work when he's well and I think is reviewed every 3 years. It isn't huge - about £240/month I think - but definitely helps if he isn't well enough to work for a bit.

acnebride - just wanted to send sympathy. FIL had a pretty serious psychotic episode a couple of years ago. They were moving house and he didn't cope well, has some dreadful paranoias; sounds very similar to your dh.

He's back on track again now, although did spend some time in the local unit and ended up having ECT which none of us wanted but it did bring him back.

It must be so stressful for you.

so p'd off

have come back for a good whinge so don't feel you have to respond

things are fine, i just feel furious and miserable

hard to find the love atm

i'm the problem at the moment, he's on great form, doing loads of childcare, cooking, though shame he's cooking so much stuff that ds won't touch

also keeps telling me how to look after ds - i'd agree i'm handling him really badly at the mo but i'm not married to dr tanya fgs

i just want to scream at him all the time

everything is screwed

he's changed the computer and now can't access his business email, he's told his psychiatrist he hates the medical profession and has been discharged, he's taken the benefits form off me again and is sitting on it, i'm going through the dreary business of letting people know about new mobile number due to him removing the sim card from old one, still freezing in the shower due to lack of shower curtain and loads of washing because we're using towels instead of bathmats, he's somehow disconnected the freeview box so no digital progs, despite my frequent prodding he didn't check the balance of a bank account (which I don't have access to) so we went overdrawn and they've charged us £90, we are living on veg soup but he's bought himself a £99 coat (looks fantastic actually) and a new pair of shoes, he's thrown away ds's gloves because they were too nerdy (I see his point on that one but ds liked them, he's not at school yet so won't get bullied), he's decided to be a freelance journalist but won't do anything like actually practising writing, he constantly wants enthusiasm and support from me and i feel like Mrs Scrooge, constantly.

carer support appointment made for Tuesday, thank the Lord.

My life looks pretty good from many angle tbh, he's v good and cheerful tho it's so hard when you're not working, he's caring for ds so well, i got excellent night out with the local mum circuit the other night, he's all ready to use his billions of air miles for a w/e away by eurostar, and he is giving me all the space he can.

Like I say, just a whinge. Premenstrual without a doubt.

I don't think you're the problem acnebride!

Is he not back on the medication? I remember a few times when my mum came off her anti-psychotic medication (and all the other handfuls of stuff) and I can see why he doesn't want to take the medication (I know it sort of dulls life) but hell...surely, if he doesn't take it, things are only going to go in one direction?

hope your carer support meeting goes OK.....

You are not whinging you are coping very well under difficult circumstances.
Although he is cheerful his behaviour is still irrational so not suprising it is stressing you out
Is he determined not to take medication still?