How to end a relationship

[Marchalready]

I loved the advice on another thread, 'Walk away. Like Nicholas Cage, in slow motion, walking away from an exploding car. Cool as fuck.' That's what I want to do.

I am in an on/off relationship which I know is not good for me and I need to find the strength to end it. I have tried to finish it five or six times but the pattern is he starts texting asking how I am, being friendly, as if nothing has happened, and we eventually start meeting up again. I do have feelings for him which is why I always give in.

I want to be firm but don't want to fall out. He has said whatever happens between us he always wants to be friends but I don't think that's a good idea as we will be back where we started, on/off again. When I said that to him on the weekend he said that I have ice in my veins (!)

Some of my longer term relationships have ended really badly with stalkerish behaviour and a lot of anger and drama and I want to avoid that.

So how do I walk away cool as fuck' with as little fallout as possible?

Assuming you don't live together?

tell him you no longer want to be in a relationship.
do this somewhere where you can leave easily...cafe etc. Not somewhere you have to ask him to leave.
walk away
change your number
be strong

namesnick is right, just walk away, text one last time, then block number from phone/facebook and don't answer ever ever again.

clearly you can't be friends, in fact, his behaviour is not friend- behaviour or anything you would accept if you weren't in an on-off relationship

just move on, he'll try and get you back as that's your pattern, just ignore and distract yourself.

No we don't live together.

Abandon the hope of 'being friends'.

You want out of this relationship but know that contact after messes with your resolve? Stop the contact, go cold turkey.

From my interpretation of what youve written, he's messed about and wasted your time anyway - you should be pissed off with him not trying to accommodate his wishes to be shagging friends

Think of the times when you are weak and take him back. How can you change that? Do you have enough friends? Enough hobbies? Do you have children? You need to change what you're doing somehow, so that when he calls you are not feeling desperate for company.

Thanks everyone. I do have plenty going on in my life which is why I have enjoyed the distraction really.

He is the only man I have ever found exciting. So I am always anticipating the next text, the next arrangement to meet up.

You are right that I have to just walk away. I have been trying to be nice about it.

Use the ice in your veins to send that one last text and then block his number and email address.

Is he married, OP?

He's not married but I always feel like a bit on the side.

That's a horrible way to feel, isn't it?

You have said that you need to finish it, but you haven't said what he's doing to make you want to finish it, apart from making you feel like you're a bit on the side. Is it a FB relationship? Does he seem to want a proper relationship?

Yes it is a casual thing but it has been going on for nearly three years now and it won't ever become a normal relationship (he doesn't want that and I can't anyway as I have too many commitments.)

I need my headspace back.