Signed up for Match - advise please ...

[quirkycutekitch]

I'm a bit disappointed about the men who are winking/emailing me.

I've winked at a couple of nice looking (not completely out of my league - so I thought) men and nothing back.

Help please - do I just wink at everyone I would potentially reply to if they emailed me?

Have you sent any emails?

I hate the whole wink thing! What's that actually about? Send a friendly 'hi, how's your day going?' Or something.
I've just joined the online dating world and it is a minefield but I'm learning that guys don't always make the first move, or initial contact!
I do have a date tonight tho!!

you will find that the men who just wink at you on match are free users who cant message you because only people who pay can use the messaging facility, so winkers can only wink at you and that goes absolutely nowhere, if you see someone who you think may be a ptoential its no use winking at them as they will think you are a subscriber that cant use the messages, so the best way is look at their profile send an message saying ho hope your having a good day and i like --- about your profile, shows them you hyave read it, and hopefully one or two may email you back good luck

I have emailed the one good looking one who is more my age & he has emailed back

I'm not shy of a bit of pro activity - I'm not shelling out £77 for nothing!

Ooo good luck for your date addicted!

Good luck, I had 1 date in 3 months . Prob do not come across well on line, I'm a decent bloke!

I deleted my account as soon as the subscription was up. Bloody useless with LOADS of fake account.

There were two tiny villages near my town who seemed to have tons of male profiles, a guy i spoke to said there were loads of womens profiles there too. So many singles in one village? Why are they all on match?

But good luck, maybe things are better in your area.

As others have said the whole winking thing apart from being a little ego massage is largely a waste of time, just email people you like the look of.

1 date in 3 months sounds good to me - I haven't managed 1 in 12 months of being single!

Why do you think you didn't come across well albal?

Thanks for the good luck messages!

Ahh got a wink from a real cutie & I winked back earlier but after reading this now thinking I should message him - feeling nervous now!

Tinder is the way forward, free and easy to use and you can only contact each other if you've chosen each other, if not there are no means for you to be messaged/message - it's genius and I wish I'd thought of it I'd be minted now!

I met my DH on match! We have two babies, our third one on the way!

You have to hang in there and you need to be tough, it is a huge emotional roller coaster.

My friend gave me good advice, 'if they are no good get over them fast !' Don't cry in your pillow for months over a muppet you only knew briefly online.

DO NOT email for weeks without meeting.

If they are not funny, don't laugh!

Good luck!

Agree with Spad, definitely meet up quickly. I'm on Match and have only been on there a month and have already been on three dates, asked out on others and chatted to lots of people. Got a second date on Friday as a follow up from one I had this Sunday just gone

Personally, I very rarely respond to people who only wink at me. They have to be pretty good looking! I prefer a nice message. Anything that just says "Hi" also gets ignored. Also, have a look at your Daily 6 every day, can be interesting.

If you go on a date and then decide that person's not for you, how do you tell them nicely?

Quick and polite text immediately after you get home.

But what do you actually say? I need a phrase...

What about...

"It was really lovely meeting you, sadly didn't quite feel that spark between us but still had a great time, thank you. You'll make a great catch for the right woman and I wish you loads of luck with it!! X"

Perfect, thank you! Hopefully I won't need it though! ;-)

No hopefully not!! Good luck, I hope you get lucky as I did (not on Match, on Tinder!) It can and does happen

Quick text saying, "thanks but no thanks"!

spad you are a match success story for sure!

scrambled good work!

So been emailing with the cutie - he wanted to what's app - but I won't given him my number ... Yet!

Quirky

If I didn't like them or feel a spark I sent a 'I think I'd prefer we just stayed mates text'. And that was usually the end of that.

It might sound harsh but usually by that point they had done something either unthoughtful or mean. Also, they might need to move on and get over you so much better to be obvious.

And, I know it is a cliche but when I met my husband 'I just knew...'

Quirky.

I've no idea, sent around 200 messages, being polite & all that, a few replies, and a few email tennis, then nothing.
I'm on here to DATE i stated.

Loads on there looking for ' taller than me' blokes and they're 5-8,-9. I mean, c'mon. Get real.
Handsome but an inch too short! Sorry for being flippant. It is nice to hear success stories tho.

Yeah spad telling it straight is best - haven't got time for game playing!

albal 200 messages! There's like 5 good looking men when I do a search!