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Housing problems

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TryingToLTB · 15/03/2015 18:29

I really want to leave my husband. I have 2 children aged 4 and 3. We have a mortgage together on the house. I don't work and haven't done so since having kids so have no income or savings.

The thing that is stopping me is that I'll have nowhere to live. I can't pay rent because I don't have a job. I've looked at my local council website and filled an application in and they have placed me in band c priority. So it would be possibly years before I could get a house.

Can people who have left their marital home please give me some advice on housing etc .

I feel so trapped .

Thank you

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Deckthehallswithdesperation · 15/03/2015 19:41

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eeyoreandpooh · 15/03/2015 19:50

From my experience you would be entitled to housing benefit but you have to be careful about not being considered to be making yourself homeless - so if you just leave they may consider you have made you sparsely homeless and not help you. Really, I think you need legal advice, legally the priority will be the children and them having a roof over their heads. Hope that is of some help

sus14 · 15/03/2015 19:59

I think you probably need to start the divorce process and wait to move out until you get the settlement, which could leave you in the house. I think you would need to work though, but once you are living apart tax credits would pay most if your childcare. Only if there is proven physical abuse would you get housed by the council, in reality, and then it would be in a refuge. I would stay put and just hold on for when the divorce is through, hard though it will be.

Sortednow · 15/03/2015 20:00

If your marriage has broken down, why can't he move out?

sus14 · 15/03/2015 20:01

Also once he knows you are serious he might move out, for the children . It is really hard, I was in this situation for years so I feel for you.

RandomMess · 15/03/2015 20:06

If there is any abuse in the relationship whether it be emotional, financial, physical please phone WA for advice. I know my SIL was entitled to housing benefit as she left the marital home due to abuse.

sus14 · 15/03/2015 20:11

Not sure hb always covers entire rent though, so you need to check the current rate for your area -'it may not be the same as the rent you need to pay ( hope it is ) but it's a start if you can get it.

expectantmum79 · 15/03/2015 20:20

There's a website where you can work out how much you'd get (it depends on number of children and their gender and there are variations depending on the area you live in).

textfan · 15/03/2015 21:39

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TryingToLTB · 15/03/2015 23:11

Thank you everyone for your replies.

Living in the marital home isn't an option as we live on the same street as the in laws and bil. It would be too awkward.
There is no abuse involved.

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