My next husband.....

[NuMonoaural]

Feeling very low today. Having an absolute dire Mother's Day, and in the process of separating from DH (moving out, arranging benefits, contact arrangements for DS etc).

However, I'm whittling away the very boring hours at work imagining the qualities my next Husband will have. I'm sufficiently cheered by stories of mumsnetters who've left awful relationships and now have perfectly lovely partners, so I'm hoping that at some point in the future I might too have a nice partner too.

Anyway 'my next husband' , will do things for other people - completely unprompted, and for no other reason than just to be nice.

Anyone else have any desired qualities for their 'next husband'?

Nah. They all have their drawbacks. Mine's pretty excellent but still has some annoying bits. Stopped looking for perfection a loong time ago

...does not exist

There is NO way I'm ever getting married again

Vastly wealthy, well into his nineties and with a dicky ticker?

Cogito ... I think some leggy twenty-year-old will beat me to that one!

Well he's not my husband but dp

When I was with my ex I used to get so upset when he was absolutely vile to me for no reason wondering why I had landed with such a dick when all my friends seemed so happy ! I'd imagine getting the balls to end it and how different a future partner would be (red flags from the beginning with ex so knew I'd not stand for any shit next time around)

And I did meet someone else who is awesome kind loving and loyal and makes me smile everyday .... Don't get me wrong I could wring his neck at his complete inability to make even a sandwich without destroying the kitchen haha ... But he's pretty ace

numono you're not alone!
Worst mothers day ever for me - in process of divorce stbxh couldn't even be bothered to get me a card from the kids just some shitty pound shop smelly set.and my mother's out of the country.
Been messed around by a few men since and I'd say I have pretty high standards for my next partner (not sure I'd ever get married again after the pain in the arse it's been not to mention cost involved getting divorced.i refuse to waste any more time on idiots.
Independent,considerate,intelligent,solvent-ultimately looking for my equal in life!

I was thinking about this last week. I never got round to 'asking the universe' for what I was looking for - I think you are supposed to write a list and leave it on a window will or something...sounds woo, I know. Anyway my point is my DP does fit everything I would have put on the list. Loyal, kind, interesting, intelligent, gets things done... you get the picture. Plus he has a bath

'high standards' - it's exactly that Newtodating. I'm not looking for perfection, and I'm not desperate to have someone in my life. I just know that if there ever is anyone else, I'm never going to put up with being this unhappy ever again. Noone is worth it.

MyDHhasnomemory - so jealous of a husband that gets things done.

I know . It has been a revelation to me. However I must drive him mad because I struggle with this.

Will cook and clean without being asked and play more with the children.
Oh he will be very rich too but still home in time for tea every night.

Cogito you beat me to it. I've always said my next husband will be very rich, very old and very ill

Oh, I have a list!!!

I want, in this order, someone who is:

Compassionate
Kind
Thoughtful
Caring
Even tempered
Easy going
Non racist
Patient (eapeciLly with children)
Intelligent
Humble
Un egotistical

Basically the total opposite of h

...is cognito's next husbands older, sicker brother.

I'm sure I've said this before, but I knew DH was different to XH when he remembered my favourite sandwich. It sounds really stupid to cry over someone making you a sandwich, but I did. Nearly 15 years with XH and he never remembered things I liked.

Dh thinks about me and what I would like, which leaves me free to think about him and what he would like.

Someone genuinely kind is the key.

Its not something I never think about and the reason I wont take on 2 legal systems to get a divorce - I have no intention or desire to get involved with anyone ever again.

Im happy on my own and the longer Im on my own the happier I am.

I'd like Cogito for my next husband, especially once her sick elderly one has popped his clogs

Someone who knows where a clitoris is.

Sick elderly RICH one!

My next husband will not have to be asked to do anything, he will see something needs doing and just do it.

.... Will be someone I fancy. My dp has so many if the qualities mentioned here and I used to read threads like this and tell myself I should be satisfied. It wasn't enough

What's the old saying: "A man with a 7-inch tongue who can breathe through his ears"

Not for me though, I'm definitely in the "once bitten twice shy" camp and at my reasonably advanced age I can't see any particular advantage to marrying again - not even to someone rich, as we wouldn't have anything in common!

My next husband will be someone who takes me on holiday somewhere new, rather than planning a trip to stay with my parents. Someone exciting and rich and sexy!

I m in the never again category too, I just can't imagine ever wanting to share a house with anyone ever again! (Apart from lovely dd!)

Like mine but richer ;)

I'm another in the 'never again' camp.

I'm just going for the fuck buddy option.

It's easier .

And if by some miracle someone completely and utterly amazing came along, I'm sure as hell I will NOT BE MARRYING HIM!

No way. Not ever.